New School, New Challenges
We all know that starting school is often difficult for children. This new phase of their life brings with it new challenges. They will face challenges such as adjusting to a new schedule and routine, making friends, learning new things, and being on their own until the end of the day. The support of their parents and teachers is crucial to helping children adjust to this major milestone.
Teachers are trained and expected to help make this transition as smooth and simple as possible. Many teachers spend years dedicated to helping children with this change. However, no matter how good the teacher its, this period in a child’s life is difficult and many of the struggle to adjust to not only the new routine but also to the unfamiliar environment and new rules.
Adjustments
While teachers are trained to help make the transition as smooth as possible, a very strict or an unpleasant teacher can make this already difficult time even more trying for a child. At that age, children are also much more malleable and they can easily be influenced both negatively and positively.
Tomas noticed just how much difficulty his daughter was having with adjusting to her new school and he knew that there was something more to it. While he knew it would be difficult at first, he knew that it shouldn’t be this difficult. Tomas decided that he needed to get to the bottom of this problem and help his daughter at all costs.
Warning Signs
It is natural for any parent to worry about their child when they are upset. As a parent, when your child is upset, nothing else matters other than fixing it and making them happy again. Tomas was no different. However, something about the situation didn’t sit well with him.
Something more was going on, he just knew it. More and more warning bells went off in his mind as his daughter struggled every day. Each day when she returned home from school she was clearly quite distraught and it was getting worse and worse.
Emotional Reaction
Tomas saw his daughter becoming progressively more emotional since she had started at the school. At first, he simply assumed that it was related to the challenges she was facing and the various pressures that came with it. One of the things he noticed was that his daughter became more and more emotional since starting school. Tomas assumed that this was merely due to the pressures related to starting school.
Not only did his young daughter have to get used to being in an unfamiliar place, but she also had to do well and meet a lot of new people. This is a lot for a child to deal with, however, as time went by Tomas noticed it becoming worse. He knew that there was something he wasn’t seeing.
New Routine
His daughter would beg to stay home from school and cry. This quickly went from being a regular thing in the morning to being a part of the routine every day. It got to the point where Tomas would watch her break down and cry every single morning before going to school.
Like any other parent in his situation, Tomas became very worried about what was going on. The whole situation was very suspicious and highly unusual. He knew that kids struggle, but you’d expect them to begin to adjust. His daughter, however, seemed to just get progressively worse. He had to find a way to find out what was really going on.
Worse And Worse
Days quickly turned into weeks and then into months and Tomas watched helplessly as his daughter’s natural excitement and happiness seemed to drain away and disappear. To make things worse, she seemed to become actively afraid of going to school anymore.
Mornings became a continual battle to get her to go to school. For some reason, his daughter was terrified of leaving home to go to school. Eventually, things reached a head when she no longer wanted to go to school at all.
Mum’s The Word
Tomas constantly asked her what was wrong and tried to find out the cause of her distress. However, whenever he broached the subject she would simply clam up and refuse to say what was really happening. Tomas wouldn’t allow this to deter him, however.
It broke his heart to see his daughter like that and he was determined to find out what was so negatively impacting his daughter. However, he still didn’t know how he could find out. He thought about the problem constantly to try and find a solution.
The School
Tomas’ daughter had started to attend kindergarten at Pine Grove Elementary school. Tomas had never noticed or experienced any problems with his daughter before going to school. Before attending the school she had always been a very happy child. He knew that the school somehow lay at the center of the problem.
Before attending the school, his daughter had been a friendly, happy, creative, and healthy child. She never had a problem making new friends or adjusting to changes. However, now she had changed and become a completely different child right before his very eyes.
Turning Point
It was clear that these changes and problems had occurred once she had started at her new school. There was no doubt in his mind that that was the exact moment when things changed. After attending the school his daughter changed from a happy and carefree child into a nervous wreck.
What could possibly have triggered such a remarkable and worrying change in his daughter? How did going to school turn her into a scared, emotional wreck? Could the school itself be the reason? Or was it perhaps a teacher or the other children at the school?
Change In Excellence
In the past, while attending other schools, his daughter had always received high praise and very good grades. Most of the feedback Tomas was provided was very positive. So what had changed? Why where there so many problems now when there had been none in the past?
A few months of attending Pine Grove Elementary school had somehow changed all of that. She changed from being a happy and eager student to a child how didn’t want to go to school and her grades began to slip as well.
Feeling Of Powerlessness
As if things weren’t bad enough, his daughter started to become emotional after school too, and not only before school anymore. Tomas had enough. Something was seriously wrong and he could no longer stand by and watch.
Tomas could no longer bear to see his previously happy daughter become so unhappy, emotionally distraught, and upset anymore. Even though he had felt powerless he knew he had to actively do something to find out what’s happening. Enough was enough.
The Concerned Father
We’re sure any parent would feel worried about the well-being of their child. It was hard seeing his daughter unhappy every day. He was beginning to get more and more worried about her.
The more he tried finding out what was wrong, the more the little girl shrank away. That’s when he realized what could really be going on.
A Stable, Happy Life
He thought about it a lot. Then, he came to the conclusion that she must be getting bullied by one of her classmates or even by one of her teachers.
They had a stable and happy family life back at home, so he knew that couldn’t be the root of his daughter’s unhappiness. But how could he find out the truth?
Patience Is A Virtue
It’s very important to be patient. It might even be one of the most important virtues we can all learn, even if it’s difficult to practice. When it comes to teaching small kids, this becomes that much more valuable.
If you ever had to deal with kids, then you know how hard they can be to handle. As an educator, patience is part of the job requirement.
Her Formative Years
Even more concerning was that his daughter was still so young. She was in her formative years, meaning that she was going through a crucial and important time of her life.
What happens during this time of her life will mold her into the adult she will be in the future. That’s why it was so important that Tomas got to the bottom of it.
Good Parenting
Tomas and his wife raised their two daughters and one son with a certain mindset, always making sure to surround them with positivity and encouraging them to be their best selves.
They know how important it is to develop a strong sense of self in kids to prepare them for what the future holds. Tomas wasn’t going to let all his hard work be for nothing.
The Tip Of The Iceberg
Keeping Tomas and his wife’s family values in mind, it makes sense that a harsh, mean teacher can seriously harm the children she cares for in the classroom.
Tomas and his wife definitely didn’t want that for their little girl. They started suspecting that they were only just discovering the tip of the iceberg - and uncovering a much bigger and ongoing problem.
Taking Matters Into His Own Hands
Being a resourceful person, Tomas decided he needed to figure out what was going on with his daughter.
He was having a hard time since his daughter was too young and shy to tell him about what was going on with her. It was time for the worried dad to take matters into his own hands.
A Plan
Being the father that he is, he couldn’t just let his daughter get sadder and sadder with each passing day. He had enough and decided he was going to be the one to do something about it.
The only question was how? He thought about it for a while. Then he finally came up with the perfect plan.
Catching Her In The Act
But how could Tomas hear what was happening at school without having to be there at the time?
He knew that if he asked to sit in on the class one day, the teacher would just change her behavior. He needed a more creative solution to make sure he was catching her in the act.
Ingenious Solution
And so, Tomas decided to ‘listen in’ – literally. He planned and built a tiny hearing device. The next morning, he carefully placed it in his daughter’s hair.
This would allow him to listen to exactly what was going on at her school. Hopefully, it would allow him to understand what she was experiencing there.
Drastic Measures
He knew this was a very drastic way to go about it, but it was important to him. It was important not only to know what was going on but to have proof on hand as well.
He didn’t tell his daughter what he was putting in her hair since he thought it might distract her throughout the day.
Waiting
Tomas couldn’t wait to see what would happen over the course of the school day. He waited for his daughter at the door and smiled at her as she ran up the driveway.
He was excited to finally get that smile he knows and loves back on her face again. And soon, he’d know exactly what had been troubling her.
Shell-Shocked
When Tomas started listening to the recording when she came home, he was shell shocked about what he heard. After listening to the whole thing, he was absolutely livid.
He couldn’t believe that this had been going on for so long! But, even though he was furious, he was still glad that he finally knew what was going on.
Listening To The Recording
From the recording, it sounded like the teacher was being very mean to the students in her class. Tomas continued listening to the recording and realized this must be the reason for his daughter’s problems.
He knew there was no time to waste. It was time for him to do something about it. He had to act fast.
Taking Advantage
He could tell that the teacher was taking advantage of her position in power. It hurt and infuriated Tomas to hear the person they had paid to care for their daughter behaving so callously.
But why? He really couldn’t wrap his head around it at first. Why would she do this to her young students?
Tone And Words
As he was listening, he found out that the teacher not only said offensive things to her students, but her condescending tone was also unnecessarily mean.
The recording allowed Tomas to hear just how much she screamed and yelled at the kids in her care over the most trivial things. What should he do now?
Sickening
It sickened Tomas to see that a teacher would behave in such a way, so he decided it was time to raise the issue with the public school district.
When things like this happen to your children, it’s usually easier to take it up with someone who has the power to do something about it.
Taking Action Against Her
He knew that approaching the teacher in question would get him nowhere. So, Instead of talking to the teacher directly, Tomas decided there was a much better chance of changing things if he turned to the state school board instead.
So that’s what he did. He set up an appointment to tell his and his daughter’s side of the story.
Complaint
Despite the fact that Tomas had a valid complaint as well as proof to back it up, the school district did nothing to help him in any way. He couldn’t help but feel disappointed by the response he got from them.
To him, it was absolutely sickening that the teacher had been tearing down children on a daily basis.
Useless
Can you imagine just how upsetting it must be to hear they weren’t willing to do anything about this problem? They did say they disciplined the teacher for what she did, but that wasn’t enough for Tomas.
And what would happen when his daughter went back to school? He wanted them to do more than that.
Taking It Upon Himself
Tomas wasn’t happy at all about the response he received from the authorities. The teacher was still teaching the class his daughter was in. He couldn’t help but feel like it was time for retribution.
Soon enough, he made the decision to take it on himself to do something about Mrs. Duncan, the mean kindergarten teacher.
What About The Other Kids?
The school offered to move his daughter to another class, but this wasn’t just about his daughter anymore.
Tomas was worried about the safety and wellbeing of the other kids in her class as well. As a parent, he knew he had to stand up for his child, but also for all the other children.
Never Giving Up
He was upset the school didn’t offer much in the sense of support or change. It was a problem that would greatly affect the lives of all these kids. As long as Mrs. Duncan was teaching, there will be children affected by her anger.
Even though he and the other parents protested together, the school didn’t budge. However, he and the parents refused to give up.
Spreading Awareness
Word got out about what was happening in the school. Everyone heard about how Mrs. Duncan treated the little girls in her class.
Tomas didn’t get a lot of support after his initial attempts to get justice, but things started turning around when he made a petition on Change.org. Soon, parents everywhere were outraged.
Rallying
Soon enough, the public arrived to rally around his house. He had over 2,000 signatures for the dismissal of Mrs. Duncan in no time. It was an even bigger surprise when Tomas found himself in the middle of the media spotlight.
Local news channels heard about what was going on at Pine Grove and they admired Tomas for his determination to get justice.
Far And Wide
It didn’t take long for the story to pop up all across the country. It meant that people all over the nation would hear about what this teacher did to the kids in her class, even if Tomas wasn’t able to have her fired.
This gave him a small sense of hope that things could still change.
Lasting Effects
By far, the worst thing about what the teacher did to Tomas’ daughter is that it was going to have a lasting effect on the child — and the other kids in her class.
Things that kids pick up when they’re so young tend to stay with them for a very long time, if not for the rest of their lives.
Putting A Stop To It
Had Tomas not noticed his daughter’s strange and uncharacteristic behavior and not worked hard to get to the bottom of things, she might have been traumatized for the rest of her life.
He was glad he had tried to put a stop to it. But it was a serious thing that also affected the other kids there, too.
A Good Mentor
Anyone who has kids knows how challenging it is to be a good mentor by leading by example. A lot of times, one will first have to scrutinize and criticize their own actions and behaviors.
This isn’t easy to get done, but it’s essential if you want to be a good role model for your kids.
Father Bear
Tomas did learn from this experience that there would be times when things are out of his control no matter how much he tried being the best parent he could be.
Despite this, he would go through hell and back to ensure the safety of his daughter. He also wanted to keep this from happening to other kids.
A Teacher’s Responsibility
It’s the teacher’s responsibility to impart lessons that go further than the set curriculum. They should help improve the imaginations and minds of the kids they teach.
These are things that will leave a massive impact on the lives of the kids as they grow older. A teacher is meant to inspire the kids they teach.
Did It Work?
It’s never a good idea for teachers to display abusive behaviors and assert dominance by fear.
All this does is stifle the progress of the kids and make them more anxious and fearful overall. Did Tomas’ efforts to fix the problem work? We’ll have to find out.
Small Comfort
While Mrs. Duncan continues teaching at the school, we hope she’s at least come to the realization of how harsh she’d been to the kids in her class.
Tomas is still hoping against hope that the necessary changes will happen since he knows he’s in the right.
Standing Up For The Kids
It felt to Tomas like the school had been putting the lives of the kids at stake all thanks to the short temper of one teacher. He learned it would be impossible to make changes if he didn’t take a stand.
He desperately hopes his actions change the school system even just a little to make sure other kids wouldn’t be harmed.
Stronger Than Ever
This entire ordeal had been hard on him and his daughter, but eventually, Tomas admitted that it made their family that much stronger.
He never would have found out that something like this was happening if he didn’t go the extra mile.
Hard Truths
By this point, his daughter is attending a class taught by a different teacher. If anything, Tomas learned how important it is to pay attention to his daughter and how she’s acting.
This has made him a better dad thanks to what happened — even though he had to face some hard truths along the way.
Always There
No matter what happens, Tomas will always be there for his daughters and son. He and his wife will stand up for their kids whenever and however they need to.
Without great parents who recognize the problem, their daughter would still be getting bullied by her teacher.
Setting An Example
Since the very day their little daughter left the hospital, her parents have always had her best interest in mind. This is what makes a good parent. Tomas and Laici always make sure to care for the needs of all three kids they have.
In order for kids to grow up and mature into members of society, having parents with a good head on their shoulders and a good heart always helps. A stable home life prepares the child for other things later in life. Aliya is truly lucky to have such a great support system!