Married or separated and living under the same roof?
The reality for many couples is to live under the same roof, but too far from each other to say they are married.
For many, it is easy to talk openly with the other spouse on a split. But for others, this is an issue that causes fear and panic. Even when there is a history of infidelity by the person seeking the breakup of the marriage, yet the other person if the head has not yet prepared for this moment, can not understand or see the separation as a solution to solve the problem.
In a Biblical passage, Matthew (19:3), when the Pharisees trying to Jesus, saying: “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for every cause?”.
Here’s what he said:
“So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together no man put asunder.” Matthew (19:6).
If they were truly one flesh or one body, then they should share the same things, ever. So it would be a legitimate marriage, where there would be room for the macula, constant disagreements, lack of companionship, understanding and, where any problem would be solved by two. But that does not apply to many couples, who live in the “war footing”.
In the same Book of Matthew, the Pharisees continue to speak to him saying:
“Then why did Moses command to give a writing of divorcement, and put her away?” Matthew (19:7).
“Moses because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives: but from the beginning was not so.” Matthew (19:8).
“I tell you, however, that everyone who divorces his wife, except for fornication, and marries another commits adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Matthew (19:9).
At that time, 2000 years ago, from the point of view of Jesus and after Him, according to the purpose of Jehovah God, the only reason to accept the separation, it would be possible for fornication or adultery. I believe that two thousand years later, this provision no longer applies satisfactorily to the people of today.
Happiness often knocks on your door and you reject it simply because you think you’re making something wrong. Not so. Everyone has the right to live by living a life of happiness and do not necessarily have to be next to that person you have ever said yes when asked at the time of marriage or when you and another person decided to split the roof or even because resulted in their married children.
In many cases, the solution to end all problems at once is the dissolution of marriage, because marriage is what fits, ie, that part that went well with the other.
It takes maturity to understand that the best way to try to be happy is the insistence on giving up something that does not even exist anymore and leave room for who knows, there is a new love in the life of each and thus gain a few more years of happiness in our short journey through life.