Breaking Up Before The Wedding? People Share The Reason Why They Dumped Their Fiancé

Marriage is a huge responsibility not many are willing to take. However, once you meet the one and realize you want to spend the rest of your life with them, you want to get married to them. It is not necessarily the legality and name changing that secures our love, but we’re doing it anyway.
Well, as the title says, this article will not talk about marriages, but about why the brides or grooms to be decided not to get married. Some of these stories are quite crazy!
In a recent thread started by Reddit user notnotaginger, people responded to this question:
“What made you break up with the person you thought you’d marry?”
Some of the answers sounded as if they were part of a soap opera!

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20. Sméagol Turned into Gollum

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“Every time we fought she would throw her engagement ring somewhere, make me get it, then make me plead with her to put it back on. Even for very small disagreements and even in public. That was the final straw. […] That was on top of the fact she began to call me names and hit me a lot. It all started after we got engaged for some reason. Things were so perfect but as soon as she got that ring everything changed.” – Reddit user Anti_Social_
It’s like she became a totally different person after getting that ring! Was it the one ring to rule them all? Did she turn into Gollum?

19. Changing The One You Love

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“He was obsessed in making me look/speak better. He would control my food intake and make me exercise every day. Whenever I was out with him I have to wear heels… dress well and he would point out what other girls were wearing and that I should try on. Putting make up is a must even when I’m on a plane. I wasn’t allow to speak other language aside from English and not allowed to watch dramas that is trash to him. My last straw was him asking me to consider to get a boobs job when I lost so much weight from all the exercise/controlled diet. I realised I cannot live this way anymore and he will never be satisfied ever.” – Reddit user Cutestuff_

If you love someone, you love them for who they are, and you don’t try to change them. This woman was lucky to realize that she was being in a very controlling relationship. The man is sick!

18. What’s Wrong With Him?

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“We had been dating for three years, constantly talked about getting married and what our life will be like. He went back into the military and wouldn’t commit to having a long distance relationship with me. Because it would be “way too distracting when he’s in the field and I pop up on his mind” and he didn’t want to commit to a relationship while in the army. So we broke it off.
The real kicker is that a couple months after being away in another state, he started dating a new girl who apparently lives in the same state as me.” – Reddit user collapse-collide
It is so annoying hearing endless other reasons why this isn’t working when in reality, they just want to end the relationship so they can be with someone else. This guy was definitely lying.

17. Stealing Her Destination Wedding

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“I was engaged to a guy I’d dated for 3 years and planning a destination wedding. He cheated with a mutual friend one night. His mom (who he lived with while we were apartment hunting) accidentally walked in on them in the middle of it while letting the dogs out. He didn’t know his mom had seen, but his mom called me and told me what happened. He denied it when I confronted him which made it worse. Called off the wedding and broke up, etc.
Weirdly enough, he got married about 5 years later to someone else in the exact same destination wedding location/venue/package/colors I had always dreamed of and planned out for us.” – Reddit user St3phiroth
This is what happens when you leave your planning binder at your ex. He steals your destination wedding!

16. Different People

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“He just thought I was a different person than I really am. He and I met during a very stressful point of my life, and he thought that if I quit doing all the things that made me “me,” like volunteering, being a workaholic, helping my family, I’d be perfect. In the end, when the crazy subsided, I landed a job that makes me the happiest ever, via the volunteering I was doing, and my family stabilized and isn’t quite as crazy as before.
We’re both married to other people now, and thanks to social media I can see that he chose well, and is super happy. […] Nothing wrong at all with him, and he deserves all the goodness in life he has.” – Reddit user majorboredom1
Sometimes, things just don’t work out. People are very different, and it’s no use trying to change them just so that you can get along. This time, it’s great to see they have remained friends.

15. Losing One Another

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“She wanted to go to Florida for the Disney college program. She was too scared she would lose me. I convinced her to do it because if she didn’t, she would regret it forever and that no matter what happened I would still be here for her. 6 months and an engagement ring later she told me that while in Florida she realized she didn’t love me like she thought she had. The ring is in a box in the back of a drawer in my dresser. Her worst fear came true. So did mine.” – Reddit user [deleted]
Unfortunately, a change of places can open your mind and make you realize that you’re not really in love with your significant other. This couple learned it the hard way, and it’s heartbreaking the man even bought an engagement ring before hearing her words…

14. Insensitive Cheater

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“After 2 years of constantly forgiving him for cheating on me, it wasn’t until I needed to be hospitalized that I realized he didn’t love me. When I needed him the most he told me, “I’m sorry, I can’t take you being in there. It makes me too sad. Call me when you get out.” So when I did, I told him I just wanted to be friends, but I had nothing against him. Literally a day after I called him and told him that, he made FB official post dating some other girl lol I’m married now and really happy in my relationship.” – Reddit user wanderingcat72
The cheater part would have been enough for us to leave this guy, but hearing him say he can’t be by his girlfriend because it makes him sad is equally worse! How can you be like that with the person that loved and forgave you all those years?

13. Two Failed Engagements

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“I’ve been engaged twice. First one ended after meeting my family for the first time, my fiancé made fun of my brother, who is very intelligent but sometimes socially awkward, for half the ride home. I slept on it, then gave the ring back the next day.
The second engagement, we dated for 3 years and got engaged after 2. The closer it got, the more he decided he wanted to have children immediately, wanted me to stay home with them, and then said, “Knowing that, I’m wondering if it’s worth it for you to continue grad school.” – Reddit user dadadawn
We do not know about you, but this woman had some bad luck with not just one, but two fiancés! Hopefully, she’ll get lucky next time.

12. Two Different Characters

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“The way we deal with problems is different. […] It makes it seem like he’s confrontational and I’m passive-aggressive, which began to wear on us. It was fine at the time, but we knew in ten years we wouldn’t be able to stand one another. He requires more physical contact and affection than I do. We tried to compromise, but it ended up that I felt trapped and he still felt neglected, so it was sad for both of us. The dealbreaker: turns out I’m gay.” – Reddit user Kangaroodle

The dealbreaker had us in tears from all the laughing. Here we were, agreeing the two reasons couldn’t have been a good way to start into a marriage. And then she comes out of the closet!

11. Not Offering Support

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“We weren’t engaged or anything but I thought he would be the one I would be with till the very end. But then my dad died and he not once asked if I were okay or offered any kind of support. That’s when I realised that we just don’t have the same values where it matters so I broke up with him. We have remained really good friends though and still hang out sometimes.” – Reddit user ChickenThuggette
Some people have a very low emotional intelligence, which can hurt them a lot if they’re trying to have a serious relationship. This guy lacks a lot of empathy.

10. She’s Cheating On Him

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“She cheated on me. Multiple times. On her trip to Europe. Which she is still on. I saw the Facebook messages on the computer where she was still logged in. Then she lied when I called her on it. This all happened about 4 hours ago. I’m at a bit of a loss… I was planning our engagement. I’m glad it happened now I guess. Very rough though.” – Reddit user finalproject
Wow… that was quite unexpected! To stay home and plan for the perfect engagement and then see your beloved girlfriend goes wild in Europe is definitely a heartbreaking moment!

9. The Ultimatum Boyfriend

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“We had very different ideas of what life should be like. For example, he had said he’d break up with me if I didn’t get a college education. He also gave me ultimatums about moving with him to a small town- both times. At the second time, I let him carry out the ultimatum.” – Reddit user JenovaCelestia
Just when you thought you found the one, you hear him come up with weird confessions. Forcing your loved one to do things “or else we break up” is not going to end well!

8. After 9 Months…

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“She was already married. We worked together at job you couldn’t wear rings. She hid it very well. I was the other guy. Found out when I proposed and had to tell me she’s married.
Edit: we worked as military aircraft mechanics. We were ‘together’ for about 9 months before I proposed.” – Reddit user himalayiansasquatch
It is bewildering to find out the person you have been seeing for 9 months is married. And she told him the news because he wanted to marry her!

7. Religion Issues

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“After 4 years of relationship, her parents couldn’t come into terms with my religion and caste, they completely opposed our marriage, the girl couldn’t sacrifice her parents’ relationship and so she sacrificed me for them. Welcome to 21st century India.” – Reddit user marzneo
Some countries are more religious than others, and it only affects those that love each other but are of different religions. It is heartbreaking to see them torn apart between their families and their loved ones.

6. Spending Money

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“Completely unable to manage money. Spent every dollar he came across on gaming & weed and constantly put off paying important bills. Would’ve dragged us both into bankruptcy if I would’ve stayed w him.” – Reddit user summerlovin2818
This Redditor made the right choice. Although it’s love and not money what makes you happy, it’s also important not to get bankrupt. Some people just have the wrong priorities…

5. Lying About Debt

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“Found credit card statement on the floor once, just before a family holiday. £thousands in debt that he’d never told me about. I’d been paying the rent entirely by myself in a job I hated and I was too young and naïve (23) to realise he wasn’t an honest man.” – Reddit user stringParameter
Honesty is essential in a relationship, and this man chose to hide his girlfriend an important thing about his financial issues. Sometimes, coming clean about your problems will save your relationship, and if not, at least you’ve been an honest person who tries to make a change.

4. Promises

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“I moved across the world for him. He kept telling me “one day I want to propose.” Or “I can’t wait for you to be my wife.” That proposal never came, and I was having visa issues, so after a few years I gave up and moved back.” – Reddit user DoYouMindIfWe
Hearing them say “one day…” is frustrating. It’s as if you’re not worthy, and they keep postponing the proposal, as if they’re waiting for you to prove yourself to them. Just face it – you don’t have the guts!

3. The Nerve on This Guy!

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“He cheated. And got another woman pregnant. Then called me a few weeks later asking me to be the child’s god mother, because he ‘knows I’m really good with kids.’” – Reddit user kmmy89399
This man’s common sense has left a long while ago! How can you cheat on someone, get another woman pregnant and then ask your ex to be the kid’s godmother? That’s insane!

2. No Hard Feelings

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“She was in love with my best friend. And they were both in denial about it. They were engaged a month after we broke up.” – Reddit user Cptcrispo
This is not a soap opera plot, it really happened to Reddit user Cptcrispo. He’s not mad, but he’s not that close to his best friend either.

1. The Couch Potato

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“It got to a point where he wasn’t working or going to school, and just totally lacked ambition. After all the support and trying to push him to do more, I was done.” – Reddit user Emilylenore
Sometimes, we must think more of ourselves and leave those that drag us down. Emilylenore tried her best to support and help her boyfriend, but his lack of ambition made her give up on him. It’s obvious nobody would want to marry such a person.

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