There are no mistakes in life. We each encounter adventures, conflicts, hardships and experiences. Each person has a path in life. This is not a pre-determined path, but one filled with choices; one which we pave as we travel. This is a journey through human existence, propelled forward by the necessity to survive, discover and grow.
The concept of mistakes’ is taught to us by generations who learned specific ways of thought from other generations. We are told right from wrong’ and good from bad’ based upon the opinions of others. The intention of this context is not to discuss the moral nature of illegal actions or acts forbidden by laws and statues. Instead, the purpose is to examine the perspectives that we have adopted from our grandparents, parents, spouses and peers.
Each choice we make in life moves us forward toward an intended goal. Think carefully about any and all choices you have made in your life. It is very likely that you did not make a choice with an adverse result in mind. Mistakes are only defined after results are tallied, and that original goal was not met. If things go well, we have succeeded. If things don’t go as planned, we have failed. To us, failures are mistakes.
What we should keep in mind, instead, is all the knowledge, life experience and moments of clarity that came to us through the act of failure. Any and all errors in judgment that we make, such as lying to a friend, choosing an unsuitable partner, wrecking an automobile, or burning the toast, are keys to a much larger awareness. There are lessons in each event, designed specifically for each person involved. It is our responsibility not to dwell on the act of misjudgment, but rather to examine our personal message. If you burnt the toast, perhaps you could learn to focus on the present moment, rather than distracting yourself with events that have passed, or the future that is yet to be. If you have chosen the wrong business partner, perhaps you could devise a plan of action to remedy the situation, put an end to the partnership, or simply choose to move forward and put more focus on that which is positive. Your perspective of a situation defines the outcome. Look for negative and you will find it. Look for positive and it will show up as well.
Perhaps you’ve heard that only a small percentage of our brains are actually used. This is most certainly the case, but only on a conscious level. Our brains are wondrously complex organs. Many, many events take place in our minds, most of which we are not consciously aware. (Remember the time you drove all the way to work, through traffic lights, neighborhoods, and school zones, but don’t remember any of it?) A large portion of our brains are on auto-pilot, set that way by pictures, memories, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and lessons. Each of these settings has been determined by a perception or perspective that we learned in the past. Somewhere along your road of life, you decided that certain outcomes are considered to be failures, and certain acts are considered to be mistakes.
We have the power, as individuals, to rethink our perception of the word mistake.’ It’s very important, and less stressful on the body, to expand your mind and have compassion when someone commits an act that you deem to be wrong. It’s even more important for all people to have compassion for themselves. Once you mentally put space between that which you consider to be a mistake, and the fact that all ideas, thoughts and acts lead to growth for each of us personally, the world will be a more peaceful place. Know that each of us is on our own personal path, and each of us will arrive in a different place, at a different time. It is not our responsibility to train others; it is our responsibility to nourish, guide and encourage individuality and growth for everyone.