Attendant Duties in Wedding

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Need a little help figuring out who’s supposed to do what when it comes to planning your big day? Use the lists below as a guide when dividing up tasks amongst your wedding party.

Lately, I’;ve seen more and more weddings with attendants of both sexes on both sides of the aisle, and there’;s certainly no rule that says this can’;t be done (although you may want to spare your male honor attendant the usual duties of fluffing your train and carrying your lipstick for touch-ups!).

One way to handle a mixed group of attendants is to have them all enter from the side and stand in a semicircle at the altar as you walk down the aisle, with your attendants on your side and your fiancé’;s on his. This would spare your brother the awkwardness of walking slowly down the aisle with all the women. If your group includes an equal number of men and women, arrange them so that each man can escort a woman in the recessional; if not, have the odd men or women walk back down the aisle alone.

Maid of Honor

• Help to bride in every point of planning and organizing
• Help the bride address invitations and other tasks she may ask of you
• Planning and active assistances to bridal shower or party for the bride/groom and coordinate shower gifts with bridesmaids if giving one gift
• Planning the bachelorette party supplies
• Attend pre-wedding events (i.e. shower and rehearsal)
• Purchase own wedding attire and accessories (i.e. dress and shoes)
• Pay own travel expenditures.
• Attend as early as possible to the bride’;s home to help her dress and prepare for photos
• Hold groom’;s ring and bride’;s bouquet during the ceremony
• To help to wear and fit the bride’;s gown, veil, and train during the ceremony
• Sign the marriage license as a legal witness
• After all reception party has completed then help to bride to change the wedding gowns .

Best Man

• Help to know all the details of wedding arrangements.
• Plan and schedule the bachelor party
• Management of gift for the groom with groomsmen.
• Attend pre-wedding events (i.e. shower and rehearsal)
• Purchase own wedding necessary clothing and others.
• Pay own travel expenditures.
• Arrive at groom’;s home before the ceremony
• Manage the transportation and also plan and apply the car decoration and related other things .
• Sign the marriage license as a legal witness
• Hold ring during the ceremony
• Take the responsibility to return the groom’;s attire to the shop it has taken rental.
• Manage and confirm to the groom about the honeymoon.


• Help the bride with tasks she may ask of you
• Participate and contribute to the bridal shower
• Offer to do last-minute errands
• Attend pre-wedding events (i.e. shower and rehearsal)
• Purchase own wedding attire and accessories (i.e. dress and shoes)
• Pay own travel expenses
• Arrive at the bride’;s home before the ceremony for photographs


• Share the plan and offer what you want to do and how.
• Arrange and manage with bachelor party
• Present and help pre-wedding events (i.e. shower and rehearsal)
• Buy your own wedding attire and accessories (i.e. tuxedo)
• Pay own travel expenses
• Help guests to inform and guide guests seats for ceremony (brides guests to left and grooms guests to right)
• Escort bridesmaids down the aisle (processional and recessional)
• In the reception join with dance and also inspired guests for enjoyment.

Junior Bridesmaid (8-15 yrs old)

• Attend pre-wedding events (i.e. shower and rehearsal)
• Purchase own wedding dress and shoes
• For photographing try to arrive earlier to the party.

Flower Girl (4-7 yrs old)

• Purchase own wedding attire and accessories (i.e. dress and shoes)
• May arrive at the bride’;s home before the ceremony for photographs
• May hand out programs to guests before the ceremony
• May sprinkle rose petals down the aisle before the bride’;s procession
• Carries flowers down the aisle

Ring Bearer (4-7 yrs old)

• May or may not attend shower and rehearsal
• Purchase own wedding attire and accessories (i.e. tuxedo)
• May hand out programs to guests before the ceremony
• Carries ring pillow up the aisle
• May accompany flower girl up and down aisle

Seating arrangement by attendants :

Try mixing things up a bit — seating people, both single and attached, with a few people they know and a few others whom you think they would enjoy getting to know. This gives guests a chance to meet those of your friends and relatives they may only have heard about without feeling stranded. Singles often like the chance to meet others of their ilk at weddings, but don’;t put them all at one table. Remember, too, never to separate couples. If you decide not to seat a couple next to one another, at least make sure they are seated at the same table.

Reception Seating Arrangement – Traditionally, there is a bridal table — at which the bride, groom, and their attendants sit — and a parents’; table, at which the mothers and fathers of the bride and groom, and other close relatives, sit. Unless all of your attendants are particularly close to your family, it might be awkward to seat them all together. On the other hand, there’;s no reason they must be lumped together at the same table.

Rehearsal Dinner Planning with attendants

Although the rehearsal dinner usually takes place at a local restaurant, it could also be a catered affair at the groom’;s family’;s home or even something as casual as a clambake on a nearby beach. There are really no rules regarding formality, except that it should never be more elaborate than the wedding reception.

You should invite the entire wedding party, your immediate family, and your fiancé’;s, and any relatives or close friends who have traveled from out of town and whom you would like to include at such an event. The invitations should be sent out in the name of the hosts, generally the groom’;s parents (“Mr. and Mrs. Robert Smith cordially invite you to the rehearsal dinner for Julie Brown and their son Frederick…” ).

Because this is a perfect opportunity for your families and friends to get to know each other better, the “what” should come naturally. Once the venue, menu, and invitations have been taken care of, you need only prepare for what’;s sure to be a lovely evening filled with lots of spontaneous and spirited toasts.

Mother as Matron of Honor

Many couples these days are choosing mothers or fathers as their honor attendants, and that’;s perfectly fine. If you think that you’;ll be overextending yourself as both the mother-of-the-bride and matron of honor, let your daughter know. Otherwise, enjoy the day and your daughter’;s obvious warm feelings toward you without giving a second thought to convention.

Menu Variety plann by attendants:

Whoever is implying that you are rude or cheap for not supplying an option-filled menu at your reception should not confuse such an event with a night out at a fancy restaurant on someone else’;s tab. If there are certain people who have legitimate reasons to request certain foods (like vegetarians or those who keep kosher), you certainly may decide to accommodate them. But don’;t feel you have to offer several choices simply because some of your guests would rather eat broiled salmon steak than filet mignon. If a few turn up their noses at what is on their plates, I’;d say: Let them eat cake!


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