How do you feel when you open up your wardrobe each day? Do you like the clothes and accessories you see inside? Does each piece give you a positive vibe, maybe reminding you of when you bought it or the last time your wore it?
The emotional roller coaster of getting dressed
I had a love-hate relationship with my (rather full) wardrobe. I used to open it with anticipation thinking,“What do I feel like wearing today?” It wasn’t like I didn’t have plenty of choices. After trying on a few things, I’d give up and go back to something predictable. Then I’d spend the day thinking I could have done better and it was time to do a wardrobe edit.
Clothes represent a huge emotional and financial investment for many of us. First there’s the money we spend on buying clothes. Then there’s the time spent in the acquisition process either in a shop or online. Finally, there’s a lot of emotional energy in making that ultimate decision – should I/shouldn’t I? For me at least, it didn’t stop there. If I bought an item, I’d spend energy mulling over whether it was worth it and what I’d wear it with. If I didn’t buy it, I’d regret it and then have to backtrack to the shop by which time it was no longer available. Shopping consumed a lot of mental capacity (at least for me).
Choose outfits to kick start your day
One day I woke up and decided this was ridiculous. I enjoy dressing up and looking my best. I even enjoy shopping, but neither of these activities are ends in themselves. I get dressed each morning to take on the day and all that it has to offer. Looking good is a great by-product. It’s not the goal.
A small shift in mindset has changed my relationship with my wardrobe and my clothes. Over the last two years, I have consciously and deliberately curated my wardrobe. Hand on heart, I truly love everything inside it now. I know precisely what’s in my wardrobe, where I bought it and why. I know how to make things go together. I know I’ve invested in clothes that will last and give me much wear and joy for years to come.
How did I do this? By imagining my clothes are my friends. I take a lot of care and time to select them. I am well prepared and 100% conscious of all my shopping decisions. I set high standards. I only allow clothes that make me happy and look good into my closet. Once they’re part of my life, I wear them regularly and try not to play favourites. I care for them lovingly (laundry, storage, repair).
Before you write me off as a friendless loony obsessed with clothes and external appearances, know this. I start each morning raring to go and when I see my clothes, I get an additional boost of happy energy (like you might when you get a surprise phone call from a friend). I know that I’ll be happy and impressive with whatever I decide to wear that day. There’s no more pressure or expectations. And I think that’s a pretty nifty, uplifting way to start each day.