The Destructive Drinker

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Have you been completely disabled and no longer able to work? Its a terrifying thought, and there are millions of people who live it everyday. Not being able to work to help support your family while your bills start stacking up. How do you live, eat, and survive? That is something that weighs on me constantly ever since I became disabled in 2009. I was able to work and take care of my family while my wife stayed home to look after our children. When I became disabled my wife had to take up the slack and began working to pay our bills. She had not worked in quite a few years, but had no problem doing what I was no longer able to do.It hurt my pride as a man that I couldn’;t do my duty to take care of my family.

After a few months I did some research and learned that I can file for Social Security Disability. I applied right away, because we were struggling to get by. What I did not know is that applying for SSDI is a daunting task, and at my at my age(thirty six) it is even harder to get approved for disability. I had gotten denied twice before I was told by friends and family that I should get a lawyer. If it was not for hiring a lawyer I would have quit trying to get disability. It is very disheartening the way they treat people who are in need of help and can no longer work. My lawyer was able to pick up where I had left off, and continue to help me towards an approval. He was a professional and knew what was required to have a solid case for getting approved. When I finally went in front of a judge I felt I had done a good job, and my lawyer felt the same. A few months went buy and I got a letter in the mail. It was another denial. I was heartbroken and felt sick to my stomach. The lawyer also did not understand her decision. So we pressed on and went on to the next level, which was an appeal. This has been going on for just over three years now, and still waiting on the decision for an appeal.

I was starting to think to myself that maybe I could work again. I started doing things like trying to stand for more than 30 minutes at a time(which I can only do sometimes). The pain from standing just was to much to bear. I also tried to sit in a chair to see how long I could do it, thinking maybe I could have a desk job. I was unable to do that very long before my leg began to swell and go numb because the damage my disease had done to me. I know deep down that I am unable to work. I mean, why try to fight for disability to make an income? It does not pay very well, and I can make a lot more if I was able to continue working in the career that I had before the disease came into my life.

I tell people who are fighting to never give up and hold true to yourself, but I did not have anything left in me to fight any longer. I needed to find a way to pick myself back up and keep pushing for what I believed in. After all, my disease did not kill me, so why let this get in my way. I just keep pushing and pushing, round after round in hopes of getting the disability I deserve. I began researching what needed to be done, and what the SSDI associates are really looking for. I was able to find Information that I was perhaps not doing things right. I had to get involved with my doctors and what they input on my medical file. I had to ask the right questions so my doctor could evaluate me better. I had to show what I could not do things any longer. I needed my doctors professional opinions and answers. You must, and I repeat, MUST be proactive. Write your questions down and take them to your appointment. Make sure they are documenting everything down for you. The only person stopping you from obtaining what is rightfully yours, is you.


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