Succeed at Dating – How I Turned Dating Failure Around and Met My Dream Man
Dating Failure can be painful! If dating isn’t working out for you, I understand. I have been there. I was the queen of failed relationships and 5 years ago, I found myself single again after a roller coaster relationship that had struggled along painfully for years suddenly ran it’s course. But I was optimistic. The Internet had arrived and I knew that this would provide great opportunities for meeting men. And I did meet many. However, as quickly as these new relationships took off, they crashed and burned, leaving me feeling more disheartened with each experience. But I didn’t stop looking for my dream relationship and, after a lot of work, I found dating success and met my wonderful partner. Even if you’ve been struggling for a while now, I want you to know that you can succeed at dating. To find out more about how I did it and how you can do it too, read on.
So, there I was with a constant supply of men to meet on the Internet. Some of them just didn’t do it for me, and the others I was instantly crazy about. There was rarely an in between. That was part of the problem as I was desperate for that fairy tale romance that I had dreamed about since I was a child. Unfortunately, none of my relationships had ever been that good, and I can see now, that I actually had no idea how to have a good relationship.
For a start my communication skills were pretty poor. I didn’t know how to ask for what I wanted so I tended to alternate between control freak and complete walkover. I didn’t know how to deal with issues so I allowed my resentment to build up to breaking point until it burst out into a torrent of angry abuse. I was hurt when my needs weren’t met and I frequently demanded what I thought I had a right to, laying down my list of “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” like a spoilt child. I could go on but I’m sure you get the picture. Needless to say my relationships were not the happy, loving places that they should have been and I walked away from each one in turn.
So, when I found myself out there again, I had high hopes that this time it would be different. Unfortunately, nothing seemed to work for me in the world of dating this time around. Men seemed to be into me quickly enough, but as soon as I thought that I was “in there”, it all seemed to fall apart as quick as a flash.
Of course, I blamed men for this, but after it had happened several times, I started to wonder if it was me. And now I know that it was, although it took me a good long while to figure it out. I was doing all the things that so many women unconsciously do during dating that repel even the men who start off crazy about them. After I started looking into where I was going wrong, I made a few small changes that totally revolutionised my dating success and got me my dream man for the first time in my life. I now know how to have a happy relationship.
For a start, I realised that I had exhibited many masculine traits in my relationships to date, which created a level of competition with my partner. I started to emphasize the feminine in the way I dressed, acted, and communicated. Although I had never had any trouble attracting men, the results of this experiment were astounding. If you want to see a man’s eyes standing out on stalks when he looks at you, definitely try emphasizing your feminine side.
I stopped allowing things to happen which would eventually cause that resentment build-up and I started to take responsibility for getting the relationship that I wanted. I learnt to receive as well as to give and how to ask for help from my partner, and gain his support. I also learned what would make him feel good in our relationship.
One of the most important things that happened to me was that I realised that dating was not about falling in love with the first man who comes along, but about choosing a man who will make a suitable partner. Not every man, however cute, will make a good partner for you. There are men who just can’t or won’t be responsible in a relationship. If you get to know a man before you fall in love with him, then you can eliminate many of these immature types with little heartache.
I read so much material on dating and relationships because I wanted that great man and that great relationship. There were times when I didn’t like what I read. There were times when I didn’t want to believe what I was reading. However, I was determined to try it out and find out what works. Looking back it all makes sense. And my life changed as I put that knowledge into practice. Little by little I changed my dating outlook and my attitude and learned how to succeed at dating. I turned dating failure around and met my dream man.