Office romance might sound very lucrative and there are millions of people who do it but almost always the idea to date a coworker is one of the worst things you can do to your career and your personal life.
When you spend a lot of time with somebody, romance is in the air. The more time you spend together, the more you like each other and you feel it is only natural to take your relationship to the next level. This might have been the case if you met somewhere else but when you have feelings for a coworker, you’d better restrain your self and don’t rush into a relationship.
There are many reasons why an office romance is doomed. First, in many companies company regulations forbid this kind of involvement with a coworker. So, if you decide that it is worth to have a secret affair, be prepared that when it becomes public knowledge, you might have to pack your stuff and look for a better job.
Another reason why an office affair is not a wise idea is that if things don’t go as planned and you have to break up, this creates tensions of all kinds. Just imagine how pleasant it is to have to meet your ex every day. This is exactly what happens when you start an office affair and it ends.
Additionally, even if your relationship goes well, this doesn’t mean everything is fine. It is quite probable that colleagues will start to interfere in your relationship; if not for nothing else – out of pure envy. Such intrigues create a very nasty atmosphere and you will hardly enjoy being there.
The worst case of an office affair is when you are dating your boss or a subordinate. This can create you even more problems and as you guess, as with the other cases of office affairs, you risk to lose both your job and your lover.
For many people losing a job and losing a lover is not a tragedy. If you really feel that you have found somebody who is worth, consider leaving your job and hooking with him or her after that. If your job sucked anyway, quiting is not much of a sacrifice, so if you feel that a coworker is somebody to go for, quit your job and try a relationship with him or her.