The unthinkable, yet unquestionable feeling of losing your spouse has manifested itself in to your very being and you think there is absolutely nothing that can be done at this point. Your marriage is falling apart. You beg and plead with promises to modify. They stands there and with a straight face, no emotion, unlike all the other times before. There has got to be a way to cease your divorce.
You panic and although your heart is broken, you feel terrified and helpless. It doesn’t must be that way, though. It is time to dig in to the very core of her decision. Could it be trust? How about irreconcilable differences? You are not getting along? Although these may very well be the correct answers, disagreeing along with her is not how to cease your divorce from taking place. It is time to finally let her be right.
If desperation is prevalent, it will make it much harder to win her back. Here, let’s break it down. “John, you have been lying to me all these years, so what makes you think that I can trust you anymore?”
You reply, “I know I have been lying all these years but together they can build your trust again.”
Do not say, “Oh I am so sorry, I promise that I will seldom deceive you again.”
They is pulling away from someone who is the opposite of where she is at. They doesn’t need you to make promises and feel sorry for yourself. That is why it is important to agree along with her, without being insincere. When you take on this role, although it appears to be a scary and uncomfortable place to be, you need to keep in mind that you are desirous to cease your divorce.
So you agree with all of her emotions and feelings. All the while agreeing along with her, you have allowed her to open up with what is causing her to pull away from you. Now they is also in that vulnerable state, where they is going to ultimately ‘make the decision’. things will happen now to let you know in the event it is possible for you to to cease your divorce.
When you apply that simple point of view in winning her back, it is a ‘make or break’ deal. You will either lose her forever or they will love you all over again. You are willing to do anything to cease your divorce, so being vulnerable along with her is the key. It is a desperate attempt without being desperate in the way you go about it.
You have talked about everything and it is all out in the open. They looks at you and smiles and because of her new found love for you, you embrace and then they schedules your first marriage counselling appointment.
However, there is another outcome that may come about. They looks at you and smiles. They lets you know that they forgives you, but it is not what they desires anymore. They has reached a point in her life that there is no way that you can possibly cease your divorce. You walk away, knowing that you did all that you can. You recognize that you must now move on. They was quiet and honest and that is the way you know that it will seldom work