Today there is a huge decline in Concept of Joint Families in India. People prefer staying in nuclear families because of less privacy in this system and also due to obvious tension in the family. Some really have genuine reason to shift to nuclear family due to problem owing to misunderstanding , financial problem, ego clashes, etc. within family. I am here to present the benefits and bring out the point that how effective is the joint family system in bringing out the best of our growing children.
For working parents this is perfect solution for child care. We don’t have to leave our child under the care of any nanny or so called Ayah. We don’t have to be worried for our child as he/she is in safe hand. It’s true no matter who is there but a child needs his/her mother at any given time, but at least we can be assured that he is getting best to us.
For a new mom,at times, to understand everything about her child is bit difficult , like how to bathe your child, how to feed her, why baby is crying even if she is fully fed etc. For these elders play a vital role, they guide us through this new phase of life. Apart from handling these big-n-small problems the most important benefit of having them is the way they inculcate the values within a child, as they have the experience of bringing up a child.
We cannot rule out the point that they must falter somewhere, may be they are ignorant about the modern way of thinking but then people learn from their mistakes. Don’t we do that! don’t we make mistake and ensure this is not repeated the next time. This applies to them as well. And as far modern ideologies are concern, for that we are there.
The way our elders teach the our child everything related to relationship, society, religion is the best and no institute in the world can provide the same. We, Indian, value relationship, which is our cultural heritage which is seen only in India. This we can see and learn only after being a part of a Joint family. This system inculcates a strong bonding, not only with parents but also with other members of the family .A child learns how to share, how to respect elders and understands the value of relationships. He learns to interact with so many people around and in today’s world its very important to be good social animal, which requires high interaction level.
Depression in kids due to loneliness has become a very common news, one of the reason is they don’t have friends; atleast being together in a family can avoid such problems and can ensure a child gets the best and is inculcated with best of values. Research has shown children in closely knitted family are happier and jollier ones.
Joint Family is not all rosy-rosy and it does have its share of thorns. In a joint family, often there is comparisons between all the kids but then even in a nuclear family we compare siblings or we compare other kids with ours. These things can be handled well and being a Parent we have all right to stand and take decision which suits best for our child. After all whatever we are doing is for the best of our child. We should always be open to discuss the matter with the elders and explain them if they are wrong.
This system is wonderful, if the people around you are great ones, they are understanding and always ready to share your responsibility. Not only is our child getting the best care even we Moms can have our share of funs too. We can go to shopping, parlor, and coffee with friends without been bothered what to do with our child or end up carrying them everywhere we go. In another way it eases our life also.