Have you ever been completely loathed by someone, and didn’t know quite how to deal with them or the situation? Has there ever been a time where you felt like the odd ball out because everyone around you has featured you in the latest untrue gossip at an attempt to tear you down? Learn how to love them regardless of how they feel about you as you may consider them your enemies.
The first step to being able to love your enemies is know that everyone, including those who haven’t done one thing wrong to you, have the potential to do so. These are just the people who crossed that threshold so far, and there will be many more. For instance, one thing that Jesus knew about mankind is that He couldn’t commit or trust Himself to them, because He knew all men and he didn’t need anyone to bear witness or testify of man because He knew what was human nature. In other words, He knew what was in man. (John 2:24-25) Therefore, already know the potential of many to cause you pain or hurt.
Secondly, pray for everyone, including your enemies. This can be challenging, true, but it doesn’t have to be a long prayer, but a simple one. Asking God to forgive and change someone’s ways along with asking for your own guidance and strength in the situation can work miracles. One of the greatest miracles that this achieves is keeping your heart from turning sour, mean and vicious right along with those who attack you. Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.(Romans 12:21)
Next, remember that anyone can hate their enemies. It takes no effort nor does it give you challenge. It is what it is, and it makes you no different than anyone else. However, if you take the time to love your enemies, this takes a strength that surpasses any of human natures elements. Everyone wants to be at their best, so why not do the opposite of what would satisfy your enemies? Love them and even make them happy. This will truly throw them for a loop, but at the same time, it will cause them to eventually look at themselves in the mirror and hate the way that they have behaved. This may take time but it’s the truth. (Matthew 5:43-48)
Finally, know that in the end, you don’t want your enemies to change you as this gives them more power over you than even God and yourself. Instead know that remaining stable in who you are and treating them good despite themselves will keep you feeling good on the inside knowing that you did what was right. Along with that, it will eventually cause your enemy to change as they take a glimpse at themselves. Remember your goal isn’t to get mad, it is to control that situation that you are facing with love as evil doesn’t destroy evil, love does.
For more on this subject, read the exact scriptures listed above that discuss this subject or simply read below.
John 2:24-25 (King James Version)
24But Jesus did not commit himself unto them, because he knew all men,
25And needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.
Matthew 5:43-48 (King James Version)
43Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
46For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
47And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
48Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
Romans 12:21 (King James Version)
21Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.