Absolutely nobody has the right to provoke, intimidate or injure you. You have all rights to defend yourself and you are worthy enough to fight back for.
The second most crucial lesson to learn is to understand the significance of your brain in your self defense. Your brain is your biggest weapon, you use it to keep your fear and panic in check, use it for evaluation of the situation and judging the best strategy you must use. Our brain is what helps us make informed choices and making the right choices on the spot makes up for a large chunk of self defense.
Learning strategies is not the only main constituent of self defense. All the little things you do on a daily basis to secure your life are also an important part of self defense. Most of these things stem from common sense and the rest just follows. Some of these things you do unconsciously like wearing a seatbelt when you are in a vehicle or when crossing a road. There was a time when people had to be pushed and constantly reminded to wear seatbelts, today we sit in a car and automatically reach across for it. This only proves that once you do something quite often, it becomes a habit and soon comes naturally.
When you walk around with your shoulders slumped, eyes at the ground, with your hands in your pockets and generally making yourself small, the message you are sending is “I am weak and susceptible”. Women become easy targets and this makes it very important to have a firm body language. Ensure you make good eye contact with people in a way that makes them See that you have seen them. Crooks are less likely to make trouble when they know you may be able to describe their appearance. When you walk, do not become small, take up ample space and swing your arms. You will boost your own self assurance and also make a difference with how you are viewed by others.
Think of crooks on the street as predators in the wild – they are not looking to attack the bold, unattackable animal but hunting for the feeble one who can be set apart from others at a glance. Do not get into a position that highlights your susceptibility. These predators are not looking to fight you but simply waiting for a quick kill and when their target fights back, they usually abandon the attack.
You can take charge of your own life when you adopt assertion. If anybody’s conduct makes you feel bad, scared or uncomfortable then you must face up to that person. You need to tell it to them like it is – point out the conduct, condemn it and tell them what you’d like them to do – “ You are continuously touching me, I do not like it, stop right now.” – if you have to, repeat yourself. This is one way of showing what you want without getting engaged; make sure you do not use the word ‘please’ when being assertive. If you are being irritated in public, create a racquet, it will be more embarrassing for the crook than you! When you are vocal, it becomes your weapon.
With hollering you can alert those around you and it is bound to startle the crook. It will do good to channelize your fear into aggression – take a deep breath and scream a big NO from the pit of your stomach. It pays to trust your instincts about a person or a situation. For instance, if you think somebody is following you around, it will be good to face them or call for help or prepare a weapon in defense.
Get a cellphone; it won’t be expensive when used for emergencies. You will always have a way of summoning help wherever you are.
If somebody forces you into a confrontation, make good use of your voice. As you strike, it will help to also scream at your loudest. This serves two purposes; you startle the crook and also attract attention to yourself. A passerby may come to your aid or at least be a witness when you strike the aggressor in self defense. In several cases, it may come to the point where it is down to your word against the aggressors. Imagine the help if somebody had heard you scream ‘let go’ and can be an evidence to it. Another important thing is that when you really scream, your abdominal region gets tightened which means if the aggressor happens to hit you, it won’t blow the wind out of you.
Time And Space To React
Be aware of the fact that the closer you are to your attacker, the lesser time you have to react to their movements. This means, the more distance you have from your aggressor, the more chances you have of a calculated response. Keep at a safe distance that will offer you enough time to respond to any motion from the aggressor. If possible, make sure there is an obstruction between you and the attacker. Remember the aggressor always has the upper hand since he is aware of what he is going to do; on the other hand your mind will process what he does, think of a suitable response and then send appropriate signals to your muscles to respond. This is why there is so much stress on the defensive stance and on keeping a good distance.