After learning your mate had an affair there was a number of thoughts and emotions perilously close to completely devastate you however to your credit you are quite a lot stronger as compared to what you actually assumed. You faced up to your significant other with the proof and managed to be in command of your own fury as soon as they confessed.
Your significant other said they were sorry and swore up and down it would never happen again. You forgave them but firmly stated that things need to change.
You also mention things you can do to help your spouse as well as alter some things you have been doing. This by no means indicates you will take the blame for their actions but you do accept the fact that it will take both of you working in unison to rebuild the marriage.
However right now you’re full of uncertainty. Your spouse will be on the road for a week or so.
It is terrible enough that you have got your concerns when they leave for work or to go to the store but the relatively short time away alleviates most of that. You contact them at the job and they are there everytime. Whenever it is time for them to return home they do.
Nevertheless this taking a trip for a number of days and nights puts stuff in a totally different location. Guarantees from your mate are not helping. True they’ve made significant improvement nevertheless that isn’t making you feel any better about your mate being out of your site for a few days.
Now you can always go with your mate. Use some vacation days from your place of work. This may strike you as some form of baby sitting and in all honesty it is. However what it also shows is you are not at the point you can really trust your spouse which is understandable.
Hopefully your significant other understands all of this. They may even take the initiative and invite you to come along. Mind you that if they do take regular trips out of town then this is not always going to be feasible but at least in the early stages it can be of benefit to the both of you.
Another possibility would be to establish a check in schedule. You could give them a ring and vice versa. Should they be attending a conference for instance it can be possible they can forward you the itinerary so you or maybe your spouse can time the calls accordingly. To go even further the two of you can use your personal mobile phones as a web cam to keep an eye on your spouse. There’s also sending text messages.
Do these measures sound extreme? That’s because they are. The moment your mate committed infidelity they took it to this extreme. If they’re committed to restoring the marital relationship there are situations when they’re going to need to tolerate a serious quantity of that’s the way it goes.