One of the greatest hindrances to happines is the way we talk to ourselves in the privacy of our own minds. “You cannot do it right. You did not do enough. You are very wrong. You are bad.” How would our houseplants react if we talked to them the way we talk to ourselves? Would they wither or thrive?
If we get in the habit of allowing our subconscious mind to sabotage us by nastily flashing on to the screen of our consciousness negative statements, peace of mind will elude us. The secret to happiness is not dependent upon beautiful surroundings, but upon your ability to cope up with the circumstances in life.
Moving Toward Balance and Harmony
Life is an unceasing cycle of birth, death, and re-birth. We revolve around changes, losses, and gains. Our difficult lesson is learning to remain in balance and in harmony with ourselves.
In attempting to come to grips with our fluctuating fortunes, we can look to Mother Nature for inspiration. In her are flowing balances of opposites-warm and cold, day and night, or summer and winter. Mother Nature teaches us that there is a reason for all seasons. That dawn is always the beginning of a new day of hope through a new light for wonderful reawakening.
One of the reasons children are so good for us is that they remind us to be present here and now. Taking a walk with a small child reeducates us in the ability to give wonder-filled attention to whatever we focus on. Reawakening to wonder reconnects us to childlike attributes of appreciation.
As an experiment in reawakening to wonder, imagine that you are a four years old exploring the park. Unfortunately, it is beginning to drizzle so you have to hurry home. Since the weather does not permit outdoor exploration, you have to settle and open completely to the moment and the adventure it presents. Lose yourself in here and now.
Encourage yourself to be amazed and awed by the simplest flower or bug. Close your eyes and appreciate the little wonders with your other senses. Enjoy, relish, and count the little blessings around you, feel you are blessed. While, it is not bad to wish for better things and plan for tomorrow, it is best not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not.
Out of the crucible of death and despair, we can build a new life by asking for support, encouragement, and comfort if we need them. We can even perceive the difficulties as miraculous and wonderful when we encourage ourselves to become wonder-full.
Since our minds work similarly to computers, it is necessary to replace erroneous commands with correct ones in order to get the results we desire. We need to replace negative statements with positive perceptions to facilitate change. Peace of mind is a result of peaceful thoughts. Peaceful thoughts encourage contentment. Contentment allows happiness.
Yes, there is a secret to happiness. The secret is gratitude. By being appreciative of this day, we create a fulfilling future. We can love ourselves just as we are, accept the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future.
If you have been trying to find happiness through you own efforts, may I recommend Christ to you?