Before we get to the main point, permit me to begin this article with a personal note to make you better accept and understand what I am writing about. I have been a parent for ten years. I have two kids; the eldest is 10 years old while my youngest is 5 years old. I have to admit that I wasn’t as prepared as I should have been when my wife got pregnant with my eldest, but I accepted the responsibility wholeheartedly and tried to be the best father that I could be. There have been ups and downs in my experience as a parent, but I never regretted the decision to have children. I love them with all my heart.
Finding out that you’re about to become a parent may be scary. Recalling that incorrigible kid you saw at the grocery who kept on screaming because his mom wouldn’t buy him that new cereal with a free toy inside, who would want a kid like that? Maybe you’re recalling another incident at a birthday party you attended where one of the kids didn’t make it to the toilet and let it out in his pants. His mom had to clean up the mess he left in his trail. That’s an unforgettable experience, but you know what? Discouraging as these experiences may seem, it’s all just part of being a parent. Kids will be kids. It’s in their nature to be like that. We, as parents, have a responsibility to set them straight and teach them right from wrong. If you only focus on the negative aspect of parenting, you will never learn to appreciate it.
No matter what your worries are, once that baby comes out, inexplicable joy is all that you’ll ever feel. Cherish the moment when you take the baby in your arms the first time and know that from that moment on, that child will be a part of your life. Look forward to those times you will be spending with each other as you watch your son/daughter grow up. It is a rewarding experience that words cannot describe. Of course, that also signals the start of a new responsibility. You can no longer just think of yourself anymore. There’s more than just “you” now. Don’t be scared because if you’re a responsible person, you’ll know what to do. Even if you feel that you’re not responsible enough, you’ll be forced to for your baby’s sake.
Raising a child is not easy. It is not just all about the good times and having fun. There may be days when you’d wish you could go back to a time when you were not a parent, but don’t entertain such thoughts. Don’t be afraid to accept the responsibility, and don’t worry too much about not raising your child properly. Parenting is a learning process, and it takes years to master it. The only thing you can do now is to prepare for it. Find good books about parenting, and ask other parents who are willing to give you good advice. Good luck on your journey to becoming a parent.
Written by Troy M.
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