It has been sometime now since you discovered your marriage partner was carrying on an extramarital relationship You did not want to believe it in the beginning. None of the normal signs of infidelity were detectable so you just chalked up to stress and needless worry.
But your instincts knew something was wrong. As time went on things became more clear. After doing some research the thing you feared the most turned out to be true as your spouse admitted they were have an extramarital affair
Since then you and your spouse have put in a lot of time and hard work to rescue the marriage yet you can’t shake the doubts. There is no doubt in your mind that you still love you mate but after they violated the marriage contract it is a difficult thing to trust they will not do it again or that they are still carrying on the affair even as you work to save the marriage.
You cannot follow your spouse around every hour of the day so there’s no real way to 100 percent guarantee they are not fooling around. But what you are searching for is powerful signs that your mate is being open and honest when it comes to rebuilding the marriage and that the affair is really over and done with.
The first order of business is the quality of the apology you got from them. Declaring They are sorry after an affair is not a one time only deal. It might have to be stressed again and again until eventually the marital partner that has been injured starts to feel better with regard to the mate and also future of the marriage. It conveys understanding of what they did to hurt the relationship and acknowledges the hurt they caused to the marriage partner with a vow not to do it again. If they are not willing to give this type of apology then look out..
Yet another would be conversation. Your partner may have a tough time articulating what happened but if they are making a continuous attempt that is a very positive signal. Your significant other talks about the marital relationship along with the reasons they did what they did. Communication also means your spouse listens to what you have to say. You might repeat the same thing over and over again about how exactly you really feel and whatever they put you through. Your significant other comprehends this without getting impatient or angry.
Lastly there’s transparency. No matter how straight and truthful the communication or even how powerful and legitimate the apology it still needs to be proven through action. The habits of adultery must cease. In the event the two of you need to develop a process where you follow up with each other on a consistent basis then do it. That can appear to some as going too far however if the marriage relationship is going to be rejuvenated then creating some type of verification system is critical.