Online dating can be a lot of fun and it can certainly be a very rewarding experience for men and women of all ages. The opportunity to find and build a relationship certainly exists online. However, the success rate isn’t really all that great.
We all know a few people who’ve had enormous success. I have also heard of people who’ve gotten married after they’ve met online and developed a strong relationship.
But, just like regular relationships (those that are created offline), on-line relationships need looking after, if you want them to grow over time.
Here are a few tips that might be helpful and increase your chances, for those who want to take a shot with online dating.
- Be patient. Take your time. Online relationships take more time and patience than face-to-face relationships. Online, you don’t have the opportunity to first meet the person and get to know them and understand them through body language, physical perceptions etc… Because of this, you’re online meetings need to be regular and you can’t afford to neglect these meetings if you have found someone nice and you want to build a strong relationship with them.
- It has to feel right! What I mean by this is that it is very important that it feels right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy or starts to give off a bad vibe for any reason, then you need to either slow down or reconsider the relationship. Take time to learn about each other and develop trust.
- One of the most important things is to respect each other’s privacy. Take your time in giving out your e-mail address and phone number until you get to know the person and have built a level of trust with them. Understand that it may take a person a day or two to get back to you after you have sent them an online e-mail through the dating site.
- The best way to start building trust, to move your relationship forward, is to share fun times that you have had both offline and online. Many sites let you send greeting cards, play connecting games, upload music or video clips. Sharing many of your offline favourite things allows you to connect online with your future partner. When you get to the point where you can share offline e-mail addresses and post office boxes etc you can send each other cards or photos or any small item of interest like a key chain or a tourist knickknack. These personal connections only enhance your connection and pave the way to your first face-to-face meeting.
If you look after you’re on-line relationships as well as you would tend a beautiful garden, in time you will create some wonderful personal experiences.
Good luck, let me know how you go.