In a long term relationship, we often discover one day that the sparks are gone, and we are no longer certain how we feel about that person. It is so easy to get comfortable and secure in a relationship, that we often don’t realize when the relationship is not worth keeping. Here are some signs that it may be time to throw in the towel.
1. You find that you are easily irritated with your partner.
His little snore used to be so endearing, but now you find yourself elbowing him until he quiets down. Some days it seems like all you do is roll your eyes at every little thing he does, like the way he grunts when he chews or the way he brushes his teeth.
2. Kisses and hugs have become obligatory, not spontaneous and enjoyable.
Do you and your partner ever kiss for fun anymore? Or have acts of affection become entirely limited to before you leave the house or before you go to bed? It is normal for some of the sparks to go away after time, but if affection has begun to feel more like a chore than a pleasure, this could be a serious sign of trouble.
3. Your partner is no longer the first person you think of when you want to share good news.
In the past, you could not wait to get home and tell your partner all about your day. Now, do you notice that you actually forget to tell them about significant events in your day to day life? If so, it could be that your partner is no longer your best friend.
4. Has it been a long time since you could give your partner a genuine compliment?
You used to tell your partner all the time how amazing they look, just because you genuinely thought they looked great! Now, you find yourself thinking that he could really use a shave… and some deodorant. Of course attraction can fade over time, but if you feel strongly enough for someone, you wouldn’t notice all of the negative!
5. You no longer find him charming and funny.
Have you noticed lately that you no longer find yourself laughing at his jokes? Do you get distracted easily when he is telling you about his day, because you are just so uninterested in what he has to say?
If you could relate to most of these points, it may be time to seriously consider breaking it off. It can be terrifying to leave a relationship, but it’s even worse to live life never finding the one who is truly compatible with you.