Life is a play, and you are the starring actor. Every person has many roles to play in life. Sometimes we play roles simultaneously. Other times we must cease playing one or more roles to start the next one.
Your roles correspond to your purposes. Sometimes we get to choose our roles along with our purposes; sometimes we don’t.
Some roles are permanent. You’ll always be a member of the human race (at least during your life and in memory after you die). Once you’re a parent, you’ll always be a parent even if your children grow up and move away or die. You’ll always be a son or daughter even if your parents die. You’ll always be a brother or sister if you have siblings, even if your siblings die. You’ll always be a learner.
Some roles are temporary. You may always be a parent, but you won’t always be a caregiver. Sometimes you will need to be cared for. Your job descriptions will change. Sometimes you’ll be a student, and sometimes you’ll be a teacher. Even the hobbies you use to define yourself, such as “I’m a quilter” or “I’m a woodworker” will change as your interests change.
Each one of us is here on earth to perform a role that has been assigned to us by the creator. There is no exception to this rule.
These roles are inter-woven to form a unified field of actions by which the universe is run. The creator involves us in the overall scheme at every step. If we perform our roles mindfully every thing goes on peacefully, effortlessly. All the trouble we experience in life is simply because many of us have forgotten our roles. We end up interfering with others; in the process wasting energy and resources.
There are two aspects to our roles. The primary aspects involves tasks which we are expected to initiate. The resources needed to do this are available to us, including qualities that we have to bring into play. No excuses are available for non-performance.
The secondary aspects of our role are supportive. We are expected to respond to others around us and provide them help in the performance of their primary roles. We do not initiate. We only respond. Having given help our role is done. We are not supposed to follow up and insure that the help is used. It is left to the other. This would lead to non-interference, to the principle of live and let live. Together the two create the unified field of action.
In this scheme there is no reward-punishment system. All that we have is not a reward (or punishment) for past actions. These are only resources to perform our roles effectively. The difficulties are lessons, feedback, to help us make the desired changes in our course. If we take it in that light then the difficulties would be short lived, temporary tremors and every thing will become smooth again.
If it is so simple how come most of us are not clear. We go through life like blind persons, groping and searching, bumping and falling, striving and struggling and perpetually lost and abandoned. I do not wish to go into the why. This exercise compounds the confusion. I have found a way out of the mess, which I wish to share. I have used it and found clarity. The light is not at the end of the tunnel, it is at hand right with us. We have to stop searching for it elsewhere.
Conflicts and Transitions
Conflicts occur when we take on a role that we don’t want to have. Sometimes these are roles we have chosen, but other times they are roles that are placed upon us without our permission.
We may choose the role of a banker and hate it. This is a conflicting role that we can change. In such cases, we should make every effort to change these roles, so we can find fulfillment. It can be difficult to initiate our own transition from one role to the next because we all have a bit of a fear of the unknown, but it is essential for our happiness.
Other roles we have no power to control. We can’t control losing a loved one because we can’t bring them back. We can’t be a surgeon (at least in the traditional sense) if our arms are amputated in an accident. In such cases, we must learn to transition.
Transitioning from one role to the next can cause us to feel like we’ve lost our significance. This happens when we place too much value on one role. You’ll never stop feeling a sense of loss, but that doesn’t mean that you have to spend your life in mourning and depression. Letting go of our fantasies and expectations is always heartbreaking, but you can close that chapter of your life, let go of it, and move forward. You can find hope and even happiness in a new role, and it too is significant.
Stop imitating. Stop looking up to other people to provide guidance, to lead the way. Stop competing with others. The resources are not in short supply. There is enough, in fact more than enough, to perform our roles Stop complaining and grumbling. When we complain, we have already identified the problem. That is half the job done. Now in stead of expecting someone else to initiate remedial action, begin the process yourself, that is perform your primary role.
Do this and see life transforming into a wonderful play, which it is.
“ To find out what one is fitted to do and to secure an opportunity to do it is the key to happiness.”