Creating change, lasting change, is hard work. Are you ready for it?
I always wanted things to be different in my life. I even wanted to be different. Couldn’t I just be a bit smarter, better looking, taller, thinner and a million other things. Even as a kid, I wanted to be liked and I always wanted more true friends.
It seemed like no matter how much I wanted things to change, they rarely did.
I used to think I was alone in this area, but as time went on I realized very few people are content with who they are and what they have. Most people want what they don’t have. Even those who we are envious of are generally not satisfied.
It wasn’t bad enough that I wanted to change and couldn’t, I also wanted to change a lot of people who were in my life.
Does that sound crazy? How could I change other people when I couldn’t even change myself? However, I continued to try to change others for most of my life as a way of avoiding actually changing myself. I took all the responsibility to change off of myself.
As time went on, things didn’t get any better for me. They actually got worse. I was getting angrier with people because I started expected them to be different and better. I couldn’t understand why they weren’t doing the right things. My frustration and disappointment was spiraling downward.
It got to the point where I was tossing and turning throughout the night. I had many sleepless nights thinking negative thoughts about change.
I finally realized I couldn’t fix this problem on my own. I knew I needed help, but it was hard for me to ask for help. I thought if I asked for help it was a sign of weakness. I also didn’t want to be a burden on others. Also, I felt that if I asked for help, people would think I was stupid.
The stories I made up in my head didn’t serve me well. It got to the point I couldn’t take it any longer. I was desperately seeking help so I broke down and finally asked for it. It was one of the best things I could have done and it was worth every penny I paid. I could not recommend more highly getting the help you need. I wish I had done it sooner.
The person who I first hired said something to me that would forever change my life and my mindset. The words came out of her mouth so easily. Her advice was simple, yet at the same time I knew the process was going to be a journey.
Do you want to experience this life changing advice? Check out my personal tips below.
1. Don’t try to change other people. They must want to change first.
2. Have expectations of yourself, but don’t put your expectations on others.
3. Stop making assumptions.
4. Accept that lasting change starts from within. As you change, you’ll begin to see things differently.
5. Find your big reason for why you want to change.
6. Accept that it’s time for change. Stop talking about it and start doing it.
Are you ready to give it a try?