Buiding confidence in a child is one of the most important things a parent can do to prepare their child for the outside world. As a parent communicating with your child is the key to their self-confidence. You need to talk to them from the time they are born even though they may not understand what you are saying.They need to hear your voice all the time. They need to know you are there and that you care. Likewise, you need to listen to them whether they are crying for your attention or whether they are able to speak out what they want from you. Sometimes, what a child is saying may not make much sense to you but you need to show them that you care enough to listen to whatever they have to say, this lets them know that what they are saying matters and makes them even more confident to express themselves.
At home children need to feel valued. One of the ways a parent can show that they value their child is by allowing them to help with some house chores.You can let them help with food preparation under supervision, tiding up their toys, putting the washing in the machine or even picking up shopping in the mall. This shows them that they are not taken for granted and helps to boost their self-confidence.
Children at some point want to be indepedent. Sometimes even before they are 2 years old, they may want to do things for themselves. They may want to feed themselves, brush their own teeth and dress themselves. When they show a sign of wanting to be indepedent, encourage them. Supervise them and offer any help they may need but don’t stop them from doing things for themselves. Allowing them their indepedence shows that you trust them and this is a good confidence building block.
At times chidren may do something wrong which may even be one of your button pushers as a parent. You may be tempted to get angry and even shout and yell to an extent of calling them names. Avoid calling names and try to keep your cool even if it means locking youself in your bedroom until you calm down. Let the child know that you are not happy with what they did without decreasing their level of confidence. If you have to punish, explain the reason for the punishment and be reasonable with the sort of punishment you give. Remember to choose your words carefully as words can either build or break.
Lastly but not the least, remember to give them praise for big or small accomplishments. If a child do well in school praise them for it. If they didn’t do so well praise them for their efforts and let them know they can do better next time. If they make an attempt to do a task you ask them to do, praise them whether they did it well or not. This shows them that their efforts are been appreciated. Giving praise to a child make them want to do even more and that means they are not afraid of making mistakes because they are confident in themselves.