Tom Petty, My favorite American guitarist and singer had once said about college “You have four years to be irresponsible here. Relax. Work is for people with jobs. You’ll never remember class time, but you’ll remember time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So, stay out late. Go out on a Tuesday with your friends when you have a paper due Wednesday. Spend money you don’t have. Drink ’til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does…”
Thankfully I lived my college life to the fullest and have no regrets. I still have my best friends from my college days and they are irreplaceable. The friends that we make during college are possibly the ones that bring us the most fun during our lifetime. The experience of entering into adulthood with a great group of friends is something that often remains a fantastic memory to many people.
I was very fortunate to have a set of awesome girlfriends. Boys come and go but girlfriends remain forever. Gwyneth Paltrow shares my thoughts when she said the best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends.Our journey started from the girls hostel. The ragging days got us closer and then there was no looking back. Studying together for exam, eating maggi at 3 am, going out for parties, sneaking in the hostel late night, dancing on any song, taking uncountable pictures, teasing, taking long walks after dinner, making a clear note about the money borrowed or given, sharing jewelry, watching sex and the city together, bitching about other girls, Lonavala trips, going for nice girls outing, buying flowers for each other, giving each other nicknames,crying watching chick flicks(specially brides war, our favorite line- Sometimes in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken. Sometimes you really cant find that one person who will stand by you no matter what, maybe you will find it in your spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding but there is also the chance that the one person you can count on for a life time the one person who knows you sometimes better then you know yourself is the same person who has been standing beside you all along.)
,eating home made food brought by anyone, inspiring each other to lose weight, celebrating birthdays at exactly 12 o’clock, peeping into each others sms, poking for details, inspiring each other to drink, talking non stop about our latest crush or even about family. The list is endless.
Laura Mancur sums my emotions by saying “ The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart”.Now we are out of college and we still stick around. Till now I have not been able to make any other close friend. The other friends I have are either just hi hello types or colleagues. These people are close to me cause they have seen me since the time I was nothing. I was just a child struggling to make ends meet and we all grew together. We saw each other in adversity and helped with warm words and a tight hug. Our relationship of friends involves the sharing of ambitions and thoughts. It’s not painful when they criticize me. They don’t call me crazy when I have my mood swings. They give me confidence and also have my confidence. They help me see the truth of life. I can be stupid with them and tell them all my darkest secrets and I know they will accept me the way I am.
Now we have our separate lives, responsibilities and priorities. We all are thousands miles away. I cant even say we are just a call away but yes, we make sure we still have each others numbers in our phone book and we keep our chain mails alive. Good friends are like stars, you don’t always see them, but you know they are always there. I am blessed to have friends who have made an indelible mark in my life. They are truly precious.
Someday many years from now
We’ll sit beside the candles glow
Exchanging tales about our past
And laughing as the memories flow
And when that distant day arrives
I know it will be understood
That friendship is the key to live
And we were friends and it was good. – Eileen Hehl