Married Couples' Ways To Resolve Issues In Their Relationship

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The following are an assortment of secrets, dished out by experts and happily married couples, which are sure to put you at an advantage as you head out on this new adventure together:

  1. Celebrate your wedding anniversaries. Women are very particular on dates, so as a husband, you must have marked the calendar for a date and give time to spend a moment just the two of you. Or perhaps, prepare something to gift your spouse that would really mean a lot.

  2. Establish your roles — communicate about what roles you expect the other to take in the marriage and ensure that you are both satisfied with the other’s expectations before saying “I do”. Decide on whether you will both work, who will look after the children (if there are to be children), who will be responsible for the management of the finances, and so on.

  3. Ensure that you have realistic expectations — this may involve speaking to other couples and even seeing a counselor to sort through any fears or unrealistic/unfair demands you may want to make on your future spouse. Couples or individuals that come from complex pasts and less-than-perfect families often experience great difficulty in keeping their expectations reasonable.

  4. Be genuinely and sincerely committed — do not enter into a marriage with the reasoning that you can always get a divorce if it does not work out. Rather, be determined to take every step possible to make this union a successful one. If you are not prepared to do that, do not get married.

  5. Take responsibility — it is your choice to get married. You choose the person you decide to spend your life with. Own that responsibility and make the success of your union part of your accountability at the end of the day. You cannot blame the other person for every wrong, just as you cannot take credit for everything that goes right.

  6. Be happy with yourself — you can only be a happy married person if you were a happy single person. To be truly happy with and for yourself, you need to know yourself. Take steps to achieve this before you wed.

  7. Communicate — this word is thrown around liberally. Still, few couples know what it really means to communicate. Effective communication is about knowing our own thoughts, motives and feelings and being able to express them to someone else honestly and with diplomacy. It is also about being able to listen when they reciprocate.

  8. Dedicate time to one another — everybody needs love and attention to thrive, even our pets. So, do not assume that your partner is happy just to be sharing a house with you. They need undivided attention, conversation and shared activities, no matter how simple.

Every marriage is unique. Every marriage will experience problems at some stage. And every couple’s problems will seem like no one else’s. There will, of course, be times when you fight, but this is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, fighting can be done in a way that allows both of you to vent and air your opinions, which is both cathartic and beneficial to your relationship. The keys are not to say things that you do not mean and to resolve issues quickly.



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