Jim and Teresa are passionate about marriage. The passion started with a desire to improve their own marriage and over the last 26 years has spread to a desire to improve marriages all across the country. They have 4 children. Jim was born in Little Rock, Arkansas, Teresa in Tupelo, MS. Jim is a graduate of Delta State University, Teresa received her undergraduate degree at Mississippi University for Women and her Master’s at Reformed Theological Seminary in Marriage and Family Therapy.
The Adams are sought after speakers and group facilitators and the Co-founders of Family Matters First, Inc. an organization dedicated to forming strategic partnerships with local churches to divorce proof marriages, strengthen families, and model Christ to young people.
We have a treatment plan that is proven to work.
If you are willing to follow the treatment plan designed for you, your marriage can be successful and you can experience marital satisfaction.
The value of marriage coaching is in what is achieved between sessions, not necessarily what is achieved during the session.
Your willingness to be diligent in following the prescribed course of action, will in large part determine the results.
In short, we know what we are doing. Success will hinge on how loyal you are to the process we design for you.
What can you expect?
There are 2 approaches you can take to marriage coaching. The more traditional approach involves weekly sessions lasting approximately 45 minutes.
In additional to that approach, we also offer Marriage Intensive sessions. These sessions involve both Jim and Teresa working with a couple for either a 1 day or 2 day session.
The intensive, in effect, allows us to complete the equivalent of 8 to 10 session in a one or two day format.
Depending on your situation and your issues, you decide which approach would better fit you. Both approaches are effective.
Step 1- Making the appointment.
If you are reading this form, chances are you have already taken the first step. Making the first appointment is a huge hurdle for most couples. At least one spouse may be reluctant and/or skeptical. You are to be congratulated. You have taken the necessary first step. YOU ARE AT THE RIGHT PLACE, WE CAN HELP!
Step 2- Intake
During this step, you have an opportunity to explain what type of marital problem(s) you are facing. Our approach is to meet with each spouse individually for about 20 minutes, then both spouses together for about 20 minutes. The first session will last 60 minutes. Afterwards each session will last for 45 minutes.
PUNCTUALITY IS VERY IMPORTANT FOR ALL SESSIONS!!
The purpose of the first session is for you to become familiar with your coach and your coach to become familiar with you.
At the end of the first session, there are 6 assessment forms you will take home. Each spouse is to complete:
Emotional Needs Questionnaire (ENQ)
Love Busters Questionnaire (LBQ)
Marital Problem Analysis (MPA)
Personal History Questionnaire (PHQ)
Marital Counseling History (MCHQ)
Love Bank Inventory (LBI)
These forms are to be completed separately.
We will have an opportunity to share some of the information during your second session.
Step 3- Assessment
This is the session where we review the forms you completed and create treatment goals. Typically this session will take up to 3 hours. One hour individually with each spouse and one hour together to formally agree to goals.
Therapeutic goals will be clearly laid out; especially the most urgent ones in a form we use called the Memorandum of Agreement (MOA)
The MOA spells out how we will reach the primary goals, with your cooperation, in most cases this is achieved in the next eight sessions.
After the eight sessions, you will decide if you need my help to achieve other goals. In many cases couples are able to make the remaining adjustments on their own with regular checkups every six months.
It is not unusual to experience immediate improvement after one or two sessions. Immediate improvement does not mean permanent improvement. Please do not make the mistake of discontinuing the initial treatment plan no matter how well things might be going.
Make the commitment to complete the initial series of sessions.
Step 4 -Setting Goals
There’s no point to a treatment plan until goals are set. To set therapeutic goals, couples are provided a Memorandum of Agreement. It is a general statement of long term objectives. The MOA clearly spells out the most urgent goals that are to be achieved
Step 5- Treatment Plan and Practice
At this point we implement and evaluate a treatment plan that helps couples achieve goals that have been set. After a treatment plan has been introduced, practice is required to turn the new behaviors into established habits. Generally a new treatment plan is prescribed for each of the goals. As a rule we do not ask you to tackle more than three goals at a time.
Step 6- Discharge
As marital issues are addressed and solved, couples are seen less often. While each client is completely unique, we have found that most issues can be addressed in 8 to 10 sessions.
Normally sessions begin weekly and end with the sessions being six months apart. The speed of the process is totally dependent on the couples willingness and faithfulness to follow the prescribed plan and complete the assignments.