Since the time I was a child, I had been told that good looks are not important, that the important thing is inner beauty. My mother would always tell me “ if you are not a classic beauty you are not ugly duckling too, be good and look good”. When I was in 10thgrade I had A Midsummer Night’s Dream in my course and I came across these lines- Helena: ”Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind.”
In this soliloquy, Helena ponders the transforming power of love, noting that Cupid is blind. The lovesick Helena has been abandoned by her beloved Demetrius, because he loves the more attractive Hermia. Helena, while tall and fair, is not as lovely as Hermia. Helena finds it unfair that Demetrius dotes on Hermia’s beauty, and she wishes appearances were contagious the way a sickness is so that she might look just like Hermia and win back Demetrius. The connection of love to eyesight and vision are matters of vital importance in this play about love and the confusion it sometimes brings.
According to Business Smart news ‘Lookism’ is on the rise and workers judge on their appearances. Although people shouldn’t base judgment on physical appearances, what should be isn’t necessarily what happens. We’re not even talking about fashion models. My experience tells me that physically attractive people earn more unmerited favors, whether it be in the employment scene, businesses, academe, social or professional fields. People have this bias towards good-looking people, whether they admit it or not. Some people just don’t notice it about themselves. They like to give the better parts of their attention towards the beautiful, often giving them the special treatment, whether consciously or not. I observed that, sometimes, people are just nicer to beautiful people, sometimes neglecting the homely. As a child I was a big admirer of Oscar Wilde. I read his book “Picture of Dorain Gray” and that book made me think about beauty. Lord Henry, a dangerously influential gentleman takes Dorian’s (an extrememly handsome young man) innocence and teaches him the way of the world and sparks the light of vanity and pride in Dorian. Few lines from the book are as follows -“Let us go and sit in the shade,” said Lord Henry. “Parker has brought out the drinks, and if you stay any longer in this glare, you will be quite spoiled, and Basil will never paint you again. You really must not allow yourself to become sunburnt. It would be unbecoming.”
“What can it matter?” cried Dorian Gray, laughing, as he sat down on the seat at the end of the garden. “It should matter everything to you, Mr. Gray.” “Why?”
“Because you have the most marvelous youth, and youth is the one thing worth having.”
“I don’t feel that, Lord Henry.”
“No, you don’t feel it now. Some day, when you are old and wrinkled and ugly, when thought has seared your forehead with its lines, and passion branded your lips with its hideous fires, you will feel it, you will feel it terribly. Now, wherever you go, you charm the world. Will it always be so? . . . You have a wonderfully beautiful face, Mr. Gray. Don’t frown. You have. And beauty is a form of genius — is higher, indeed, than genius, as it needs no explanation. It is of the great facts of the world, like sunlight, or spring-time, or the reflection in dark waters of that silver shell we call the moon. It cannot be questioned. It has its divine right of sovereignty. It makes princes of those who have it. You smile? Ah! when you have lost it you won’t smile. . . . People say sometimes that beauty is only superficial. That may be so, but at least it is not so superficial as thought is. To me, beauty is the wonder of wonders. It is only shallow people who do not judge by appearances. The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible. . . . Yes, Mr. Gray, the gods have been good to you. But what the gods give they quickly take away. You have only a few years in which to live really, perfectly, and fully. When your youth goes, your beauty will go with it, and then you will suddenly discover that there are no triumphs left for you, or have to content yourself with those mean triumphs that the memory of your past will make more bitter than defeats. Time is jealous of you, and wars against your lilies and your roses. You will become sallow, and hollow-cheeked, and dull-eyed. You will suffer horribly…. Ah! realize your youth while you have it”.
But as I grow older, I realize looks aren’t everything, but it certainly doesn’t hurt to have an image that’s easy on the eyes. Fortunately, being good-looking these days isn’t just about being born that way. It’s about appreciating and emphasizing your best features, and putting your best foot forward.
These are few steps, which will definitely make you look better and feel better about yourself.
1.Start from the inside out.
Be healthy- Eat healthy food, drink more water and exercise.
Be confident-Self esteem, confidence and the way you carry yourself is very important.
Sleep well every night
Be a good person. Develop good character to match your good looks. Be humble and honest.
2. Be hygienic
Scent- Wear a deodorant or perfume, according to your wish.
Nails- Keep them trimmed and clean
Skin- Wear sun block; apply lotion daily to keep your skin soft and smooth
Teeth- Brush at least two times a day. Visit dentist regularly.
Hair- Keep it neat and clean.
3. Be distinct Every individual is rare and unique. Be yourself and flaunt it. Cultivate a new hobby, always be ready to explore and learn, emphasize the things that make you unique, whether it’s your hair, your height, your shape, your eyes, and so on.
4. Dress well -Wear something that makes you feel comfortable and makes you feel happy to look in the mirror. Make yourself presentable and show people that you care about your appearance.
5. Pamper yourself every once in a while. Maybe once a month or twice a week, depending on your financial condition treat yourself. A little pampering will go a long way in boosting your self confidence.
6. Smile -Smile makes a person attractive. What else would be more inviting and approachable? “People seldom notice old clothes if you wear a big smile” -Lee Mildon
What you feel inside will actually get transpired outside, so if you have positive views about yourself inside it will definitely show outside. Proper body language, subtle dressing and way of carrying yourself add to personality. Knowledge and skills are the lead essentials to be noticed and admired. If you love yourself then other people love you too. Tell yourself you’re beautiful and don’t let other people make you feel any less than what you are. Be proud of what you are. Remember the true golden rule- Smile, It is originally you and completely free. It is priceless.