What are you afraid of? I’m sure that like almost everybody else you are afraid of something.
Charles F. Haanel defines fear as “…a powerful form of thought.” I think it is a very good definition, because mostly fear is in our minds. Phobia is abnormal fear. We are often afraid of things which we have no reason to be afraid of.
This is because most of the fears and phobias are only the creations of our minds.
For example a few people are fearful of taking flight. How come? In all likelihood because they’ve found out about some airplane wrecks and that all of the people died in those accidents. Of course airplane accidents do happen, and commonly all of the people who are in such accidents perish. But the same people who are frightened of flying are generally not afraid of going in cars and on buses. Cars accidents cause numerous deaths than plane accidents. The chance of dying in the car accident is a good deal higher than in an airplane accident. Flying is the most secure way of journeying. So, why people are frightened of flying? Like with most phobias the reason is that they don’t control their intellects.
When we hear about different tragedies and bad news, a subconscious mind accepts everything which comes from a conscious mind. The subconscious mind is a creator, it makes things happen, but it does not have the power to distinguish between what is beneficial and risky for us. The conscious intellect has the ability to distinguish, but most of the people often do not use this power.
So, when you listen to news or a story your conscious mind accepts the news and makes a fearful picture of the situation. Maybe even you or your loved ones are in this picture. If the feeling of fear is there and it gets to your subconscious mind, it gets deeply rooted in your sub consciousness and it will be really hard to get eliminate that fright.
Of naturally there are some methods to get rid of different fears and phobias. But 1st you had better be cautious to not let any concerns or phobias to develop in your subconscious mind. Avoid brooding on any pessimistic and antagonistic beliefs. Try to cultivate confident feelings. Be affirmative. Even if you are not blissful at the present moment, thinking about your unhappiness will not make you feel better. It will make you feel worse.
Think about something that would make you happy, about something you want very much. Close your eyes. Try to visualize yourself in a happy situation, in your perfect environment. Think of the reasons why you want what you want. See yourself as already possessing what you want. Try to really feel it. Let the feeling excites you. Hold on that feeling.
If you do that you cannot feel unhappy. It might be difficult at first, but if you practice often it will become easy and natural for you. You will not only feel better but you will start attracting the things you really want. And by concentrating on positive feelings and by being charged with positive energy you will become immune to any fears and phobias. You will start manifesting the life you want. Now you are what you thought mostly about in the past. Do not allow your negative thoughts to create the unhappy future for you.
Social Phobia is an irrational anxiety bestowed forth by vulnerability to certain social situations, extending to avoidance behavior.
Specific Phobia is a persistent and nonrational fear in response to some specific stimulus, which generally results in avoidance of/withdrawal from that stimulus. It could be triggered by an insect or animal (zoophobia), by a situation like being trapped in an enclosed space (claustrophobia) or it could be a fear of disease (path phobia).
If you are afraid of Public Speaking
Though it feels real, the fear of public speaking or Gloss phobia is what psychologists call “social construction”. This entails that it’s not an instinctive phenomenon, but the consequence of something society has produced. We anticipate it to induce fear and consequently, it induces fear.
Unfortunately it is this “fear of the fear” which causes the problem to perpetuate, creating a vicious cycle.
It is possible for a sufferer to change their attitude to public speaking and thus reduce their fear. If you can figure out exactly what it is about public speaking that scares you, then you can begin to see what you might be able to do about it. This analysis will help you to change your feelings.
For example, if you regard the thought that people might laugh at you to be an important factor in your fear, you should ask yourself when they have laughed at you before. If they only laughed when you wanted them to, then your fear is unreal. Such reflection can make a positive change in your attitude to public speaking.
If you have a fear of Heights
Fear of heights is one of the most widespread of fears. In some situations a fear of heights is quite appropriate and a matter of common sense. According to psychologists, there are only two natural fears – fear of loud noises and fear of heights.
However, a morbid fearfulness of high places, which is the definition of acrophobia, can be very bad for you. If you found yourself in a “high” situation, it would be much better for you to have your wits about you. Feeling an intense fear while inside a safe environment such as a skyscraper is not a suited reaction.
As with many fears, acrophobia often goes hand in hand with other phobias, a fear of flying in particular. As it is a fairly common phobia, many sufferers choose to accept it instead of try to get help, accommodating their lifestyle to the limitations. This can prove crippling to many aspects of life from holidays to accommodation, even limiting your possible career options.
The best methods for curing acrophobia involve gradual desensitization, slowly disclosing the sufferer to ever-greater heights while teaching them relaxation techniques that will enable them to maintain their presence of intellect. A few of the formulas that work best are NLP and timeline therapy.
If you’ve a fear of heights
The airplane was springing hard as we were starting our decent into Albuquerque. Living in Santa Fe, I’ve flown in and out of Albuquerque airport a lot due to my workshop agenda. It’s always rough.
The woman sitting next to me was gripping the armrests and shaking, scared to death. I turned to her and asked her if she would like some help. She nodded.
“Don’t worry, nothing bad is going to happen. We are secure.”
“How do you know that?” she asked.
“If you were to move out of what your mind is telling you that’s daunting you and open to a different Source of Truth, you’d know too. Your mind, which is devoted to trying to control things, is freaking out due to feeling so out of control.
It’s this belief of being out of command that is daunting you. And, of course, you have no control over the plane or over the pilot. But if you tune into the real Source of Truth, which is definitely not your mind, you will know that we are safe. Imagine that your mind is like your personal computer, which only contains what has been programmed into it. Imagine that the Source of Truth is like the Internet – a vast network of information that you can easily access. Imagine the Source of Truth as a glorious brightness occupied with all the wiseness of the cosmos. Open to learning with this Source of Truth and ask, ‘Are we safe?’ Try it and see what happens. Just focus your whole being on wanting to acknowledge the truth.”
The women was panic-stricken enough to test it, even though I believe she reckoned I was crazy. She closed her eyes and centered on the question, “Are we safe?” A second later she opened her eyes, distinctly astonished.
“I heard in my mind, ‘You are safe.’ Did I just make that up?”
“How do you feel if you decide to believe it?”
“Much better! I’m not feeling so scared!”
“That’s because our emotions are an precise guide of whether or not we are telling ourselves the truth. Our emotions are a great gift from our Source. We will always feel badly when we are telling ourselves a lie, and we’ll feel happy and peaceful when we are working from Truth. You were frightened because you were telling yourself a lie, and now you are fine because you are telling yourself the truth. Whether you consider this is coming from inside you or from without is not significant. What is significant is to know that you are able to access the Truth. I always ask this question BEFORE I fly, so that I know the completely that I am safe, knocks and all.”
The woman bore a large grin on her face the remainder of the way down, although we were still springing about.
Fearfulness, whether of flying or of anything else, is forever the result of what you’re revealing to yourself. Your fright is letting you know that you’re off base in your thinking. If you then cover up your fear with an addiction, such as drinking on the plane in order to get past the fear, then you never deal with the lie you are assuring yourself that is causing the fear.
The injured part of us forever feels panic-stricken while we think we’re out of command of something. This component of us, our intellect, believes it can recognise the accuracy about matters. But our brains are programmed on a lot of fictitious beliefs that stimulate a great deal of fearfulness. Truth is not something we can approach from our constricted intellect – it is something we have to afford . The sentiments of our brain will never seduce us to feel safe and will sure enough not afford us the control we look for. True safety consists of being maneuvered by Truth. The paradox is that in releasing control to Spirit, we gain the sense of command that comes from operating out of the Truth.
The intellect believes it can produce safety with some form of control. Yet true safety comes from being associated with the origin of Truth.