I had to face the grim reality of being alone a few years back when my wife and I split up. I never thought in a million years that I would have to be single again, yet alone now I had to shop for a new mate to spend the rest of my life with. I mean, I have kids, a house and a job, wellI still have the kids and my job.
The prospect of dating both thrilled and terrified me all at the same time. I could not believe this, I mean, where do I start? What do I do?
After the initial shock wore off, I sat down to think about where I would go to find my new lady friend. I asked a few of the single guys where I worked and they all told me that online dating sites were where it was at. I was truly repulsed at this sugesstion, but that night I investigated.
I went to several sites that evening and discovered there were thousands of sinlgle women online who lived within 50 miles of my house and where looking for single men like me. I couldn’t believe the luck. The first think I did was subscribe to the site and upload an online dating profile. The only photos I had of myself were of me holding huge fish that I had caught. I uploaded one of these photos and began to flirt with the ladies. I received a few responses, but not many. Then one night I received a smart alec response from a lady subscriber who told me that was not an appropriate photo for an online dating profile. I responded back to her asking what would be an “appropriate” photo. She was actually nice enough to inform me that if I had a close up photo of me wearing some nice clothes with a nice smile I would receive many more responses. She also advised me to show a little of my personality in my profile and take some time to fill out the questionaires. I thanked her and then we parted ways.
That night I dressed nicely and went over to a friends house to have my photo taken. Once I was over there he took several photos and them on a thumb drive for me.
I uploaded the photos to my profile and immediately went back to flirting.
Once I started flirting again I learned lots of things. Here are some tips:
1) Do not fall into the trap of talking badly about your ex. Lots of divorcees like to vent, but listen to what they have to say and have some class when it comes to your ex. Try to move the conversation to a more positive topic. It is very easy to talk badly about your ex, especially if the wounds are fresh, but try not to do it.
2) Get to know someone before you meet them. try your best not to seem to seem desparate. Eagerness can be misintrepreted as desparation.
3) Do not be in too big a hurry to get into a relationship. It is the most natural thing in the world to want to be in a relationship. After all, you were married for years and you became used to sharing your life with a lady.
The biggest piece of advice is to take your time and be yourself. If you don’t find anyone right away, maybe you should take a step back and sort things out for a while.
Dating is a complicated thing. Take it slowly and don’t rush into anything. Having said that, if you meet the right person, it can be very rewarding for many years to come.