Recent studies state that about 20% of working people experience bullying in their working places. It is not a gender issue and everyone is prone to be bullied. Internationally renowned researchers like Andrea Adams and David Graves state that women are bullied three times more than men, especially those in the higher professions. Their studies further reveal that 45% of all bullies are managers who bully employees, 42% are employees who bully managers and 13% are employees who bully each other.
Ways of bullying
1) A common form of bullying found in workplaces is the undermining of a victim’s professional reputation and competence.
2) Nasty remarks are made in a veiled manner, persistently or repeatedly, over a long period of time tormenting a particular victim.
3) Painful put downs are made in a number of ways such as muttering snide remarks.
4) In many cases these remarks are not made directly to the victims. However, the bullies make sure about being bullied, loss of job satisfaction, stomach and muscular pain, etc.
that their victims hear their remarks.
5) Sometimes it is in the form of banter supposed to relieve the boredom of the workplace. But when it is consistently aimed at one person it causes pain.
Results of bullying
1) Workplace bullying often causes serious decline in the physical and psychological health of the victims. It collapses their normal health.
2) the most common effects of bullying are stress, depression, withdrawal, social isolation, insomnia, guilt-feeling Terrorism is the threatening word that has every nook and corner of the modern age. Psychological terrorism or bullying is a new avatar of modern terrorism. In the computer era, cyber-bullying by text messages and e-mail is becoming more and more frequent.
3) In most of the cases the victims experience difficulties in family life. It ends in failure in family life also.
4) It is estimated that 25% of these victims leave their jobs finding it difficult to cope with these psychological terrorist acts.
5) Bullying often destroys self-confidence and causes deep psychological pain, loss of job and throws the victims into utter failure.
6) It is very sad to note that 14 to 20% of all suicides are associated with bullying.
Who are these psychological terrorists?
1) Very often these psychological terrorists are people with poor self-image, incompetent, jealous, and those who have strong inner desire to control others, take pleasure in pricking on victims in the company of others and take the credit for other people’s work.
2) They never admit to being wrong, hold back information, blame others and never themselves, twist the truth, refuse reasonable requests and do not trust others.
3) Bullies, usually, are cowards with low moral and ethical standards.
4) They feel the need for collaborators to support them in their aggressive activities. They favor their collaborators and turn them their ‘yes men’.
5) When one person leaves the job because of their bullying, they tend to pick up another one of their collaborators as a target of their bullying.
How to cope with bullying in workplace?
1) In the challenging situations of bullying we have to cope with them and survive by remaining steady and not perturbed.
2) Have a detailed diary, recording all the details of the bullying instances. You should also add the names of those who were observing the bullying incident.
3) Describe what was said, who said it, etc. and also the consequences you had to suffer because of that incident. It would be good if you discuss about it with one of your trustworthy friends.
4) Do not cry in front of the bully and betray your weakness. Rather you can share it with your friends.
5) Before you confront your bully, you must try to regain your inner strength because the bullying may have made you lose belief in yourself and your body language also should be correct.
6) Trade unions can support you in this regard. Request the help of some reliable personnel officer.