Feeling confident can give you an extra “edge”. It’s important because it brings feelings that help you to enjoy life and get what you want. Without it, you may hold back from doing your best because you don’t believe in yourself. With it, you can do almost anything.
Here are a few confidence boosters:
Making anxiety work for you-When you try to fight anxiety, you think about it so much that it grows out of proportion and you start to feel totally overwhelmed. As a result, your performance will drop. Remind yourself that it’s actually OK to be a little nervous That will help keep you from becoming a total wreck!
Focus on what can go right, not on what can go wrong. Just imagine a project going smoothly instead of worrying any potential pitfalls. Focusing on what could go wrong will just fill you with negative “vibes” that can mess up your confidence and actually stop your progress. Focusing on what could go right, however, fills you with a sense of optimism and competence, enough to spur you on.
When things don’t go your way (or go wrong)-Just say to yourself, “I blew that, but it’s OK. I’ve got other chances. Otherwise that loss will always linger.
Don’t compare yourself to other people-A lot of people who seem to “have it made” often suffer from the same insecurities you do. But they’re better at hiding it. Knowing that you have feelings in common makes you feel better because you’re not alone in all this.
Remember what you’re good at. When you’re feeling unsure of yourself, think of an area or skill in which you’re very confident and feel good about yourself. You can also make a list of your accomplishments; you may have many more than you realize!
Did you know that men and women are confident about different things?
Women feel more confident when they are giving, providing support and listening. They feel least confident about saying ‘no’, setting limits and asking for things. It’s because women have been traditionally raised to put others’ needs above their own.
Men feel confident when they’re directing others and asking for what they want on the job. They feel least secure when they’re expressing their feelings or need help. And that’s because men have been traditionally raised to act, rather than to feel.