Speed dating is the ideal way to meet people who are like minded – everyone goes with the intention of meeting someone, so you eliminate the potential ‘I’m not really looking for a relationship at the moment’ scenario. The system is also discreet with the usual arrangement encouraging that people subtly note down the person, or people, who you would like to get in contact with. This means that you do not have to face the fear of rejection or build up the courage to directly ask someone out on a date.
But how do you get the most out of the speed dating experience? Here are a few tips:
1. Choose the right event
Often speed dating events are arranged by different categories, which is quite good in that it acts as a mild filter to ensure that you can mingle with the people who you feel you may have the most in common with. Most commonly they are divided by age categories or religion.
It is a good idea to do some research into which event to select so that you are sure that you are likely to meet people who you think you would be compatible with.
Curb your expectations so that you are more likely to enjoy it. If you are adamant that you must meet someone, you may be disappointed or put too much pressure on yourself which will affect your enjoyment of the event. On the other hand it is not good to attend with a sceptical frame of mind otherwise your negativity will affect your opportunities for meeting people.
The ideal would be to go speed dating with an open mind and with a positive attitude.
Since you only have a couple of minutes to speak to each person, you will not be able to engage in an in-depth conversation. It is therefore a good idea to think about what basic things you would like to know about your date and what mannerisms or outward impressions your ideal date would have. This will help you filter people that you may be interested in getting to know a bit better as well as giving you some questions that you can ask your date.
4. Be yourself
It is easy to put on an act to impress but would you really want someone to express interest in getting to know you better when they didn’t make their judgment on the real you? If you are yourself and don’t worry about impressing people, you are more likely to attract the right attention, and your relaxed aura will come across which will make the date more pleasurable.
It is daunting to go to these types of events on your own so encourage your friends to come. Maybe you could encourage other single friends to go and treat it as a nice evening out? Or if your friends are not single, they could come too for a good night and to give you some support.
All in all, speed dating is an excellent way to break the ice with someone who wants the same things out of their life – relationship wise – as you do. With our busy working lives, it is difficult to meet new people, so why not give it a go!