Creating the Best Year of Your Life
What would your life be like if you applied a series of simple exercises, journal writing, support and focus on creating the best year of your life? Suppose the decision of things being ‘good’ or ‘bad’ was up to you and not the media? Could you stop WAITING and get in ‘action’?
Remember the old saying, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Give yourself the gift of self reflection that will help you to create the life you really want this year.
Step : Take a few moments to journal what in your life is ‘not working’. Create a list of all of the things that you’ve been telling your friends you’re dissatisfied with — from your job to your finances, love life or career future. Make the list as long as you’d like and come back to us. Go ahead, I’ll wait.
Now considering that all of these things on the list from the above mentioned Step are in your life because you feel you can’t solve this problem under the circumstances, write out what life would be like if you had all the time, money, resources and ‘luck’ that you needed to move all of these ‘not working’ items into your ‘working’ list. Use your creativity and just paint that picture of what it would be like. You’ll have to turn off your NEGATIVITY GENERATOR for a bit but trust me, it’s a habitual behavior and you may suffer withdrawals, but it can be put on idle for a little while with no lasting damage to you.
At the end of each year, and on their birthdays, many people take time to reflect and look ahead. If you’re one of these people, or if you would like to start getting the benefits from a little self reflection, then I have some great questions for you.
These questions can be looked at once a year, once a month or whenever you’re looking for some direction in your life. I invite you to take a good hard look at your life more than once a year. You’ll get a lot more out of your life if you’re more conscious about what you’re creating.
Some of the questions weren’t developed by me and many are from a terrific book called “Your Best Year Yet: Ten Questions for Making the Next Twelve Months Your Most Successfull Ever” by Jinny S. Ditzler. I highly recommend it if you want to go a little deeper.
These questions have been designed to help you to take time to complete the year and to formulate the new year from a clean slate. By working on the following questions you will complete this year powerfully so you can have the room to build a new “me” for the new year.
Looking at this past year:
1. What do I want to be acknowledged for?
2. What did I accomplish?
3. What did I want to accomplish that I did not accomplish? (Do I still want to do this?)
4. What did I say I would do that I didn’t do? (Do I still want to do this?)
5. Who do I need to be in communication with?
6. What were my biggest disappointments?
7. What did I learn? – List 3 lessons which will make the most difference if you remember them this year?
(See them as guidelines for next year).
1. How do you limit yourself and how can you transform these actions to be powerful?
2. What do you say to yourself to explain your failures? (These false beliefs are your limiting paradigm).
3. List your limiting paradigm.
4. List your new paradigm which must be personal, positive, present tense, powerfully and simply stated, pointing to an exciting future.
5. Read your new paradigm out loud when you awake and before going to sleep each day. Teach your subconscious that this is your paradigm.
1. What are your personal values? What is most import to you in your life? What drives you?
2. What roles do you play in your life? (List 8 or more). Then list new ones you want to incorporate into your life in the next year. Rate each role on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the most important.
3. Where is your life out of balance? If you could put one problem behind you, once and for all, what would it be?
4. Which role is your major focus for next year? ( In what role do you want a breakthrough performance? If you could put a check mark by one of these roles at the end of next year showing, showing that you felt good about how you are playing that role, which one would it be?)
5. What are your goals for each role?
The way that this works is that for at least a week or two you ask yourself the above questions. I write them down and do it in writing several different times. Then after doing that for all of the above questions you answer one final question:
What do I want to accomplish and who do I want to be in the coming year?
Remember the old saying, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Give yourself the gift of self reflection that will help you to create the life you really want this year. It only takes an hour or two. Don’t you deserve better than settling for whatever shows up when fail to plan?…of course you do.
Gather the friends and relations you have who give you strength and support and ask them to be part of the greatest year of their lives too. Get support, friendship, encouragement and creativity from others. Even if you’re down, the chances that EVERYONE in a group is down at the same time or stays down no matter what is happening, are not very high. Ask for an give support and form your ‘Mission Impossible Team’ just like I did in order to finish my book. It worked, it continues to work and it will work again and again if you put in the effort.
Spell it out, tell it out. Get very clear what you’re up to this year and tell as many people about it as you can. Getting others involved helps keep you motivated and also gets people rooting for you, giving you support either emotionally or literally, and moves you closer to your goals.
Tips & Warnings
You don’t have to buy a book or even read one: Go to the library and check out their supply of books and books on tape or CD.
Don’t try to do this alone; you’ve been doing that already or with the wrong help so it’s time to ask for help or change your resources.
Don’t be afraid of taking a chance — ‘ships weren’t built to stay in the harbor’.
Use your common sense and stay with reputable programs. Ask around, get ideas, read some sample materials, etc. Stay away from programs that promise too much too soon, sound like ‘get rich quick’ schemes or that insist on a level of ‘obedience’ as opposed to a discipline or coaching model.