All of the Old Get Him Back Rules are not absolutely True . Lots of you are asking: can I contact my ex?? Yes, you can.
The first thing everyone tells you about breaking up is that you have got to be powerful and break off all contact. This isn’t necessarily right and can really be detrimental. It’s even a little childish and here’s why.
If you break up (it doesn’t matter who called it) there is a type of resentment and pride from either side. Frequently, no one wants to confess that they’re wrong. If you seriously desire your man back, he should know it. But he only desires to understand it once. My information: Be clear and then vanish.
What does this mean? It suggests you have let him know that you want him back. You can’t avoid him and expect him to come running. Men don’t want to be shot down so whether or not he thinks he might want you back he may not let you know if he doesn’t know where you stand. Let him know that despite blah blah and blah you would like to make this work, but understand you both might need space for a little bit. The keys to this short conversation are:
-Give yourself a little time to process and relax before making contact. And I don’t mean a few hours. I mean at least a few days.
-Make sure you are completely level headed going into it. It will be simple to get emotional and blabbery and you cannot let that happen
-Know exactly what you are going to assert.
-After you have said it you’re done. Don’t wait for it to become a conversation. Don’t expect him to take you back right then. The point is just to let him know so when he wants you back later he isn’t too frightened to go for it.
-You can’t need something in turn. If you know that if he does not answer a certain way it’ll tear you to pieces, you are not prepared to make this contact yet.
-Have a planned activity after. This makes sure you can not stay on the telephone long and also gives you something to anticipate after which will keep your mind off of it. Shopping with the girls? Yes please.
Now don’t contact him again.
After a break people have a tendency to live in extremes. They either cut off contact completely or merely will not stop calling them. You shouldn’t be too proud to be truthful, but you should be too proud to place yourself in a desperate situation. Be clean and then disappear.
This one time contact only works as part of a larger plan. Check out my other materials for the rest.