ARE NARCISSISTS SELFISH?
Most narcissistic people are so good-looking that they think they deserve some special attention and affection.
They are everywhere. It’s hard to deal with them. They’re not committing crimes and it’s hard to avoid them. What should you do? Contrary to what is believed, narcissists are not selfish.They actually love themselves so much that they do their best to keep people’s adoration. They are willing to do favors to people to keep their love and attention.
Thus, since narcissists want to be friends with everyone which is not practical, these narcissists have very few real friends. Many a narcissist aren’t even aware that their so-called many friends are all superficial. So if you want to be friends with a narcissist, or for some reason you are dealing with one, there are some dos and dont’s you need to consider. Don’t be locked with the idea that narcissists are selfish if you wanna learn how to deal with narcissistic people.
WHAT ARE NARCISSISTS OBSESSED WITH?
It is like dealing with a vampire. Vampires crave for blood and that is what keeps their existence. In like manner, narcissists are obsessed with love and attention and that is what keep them alive.
If you are trying to coax a narcissist for some reason, just simply pour your attention to that narcissist. Both the most arrogant person and the humblest one are prone to flattery. That’s the best manipulative tool for narcissists- they never get fed up with it. It’s okay to repeat the same flattery or compliment to a narcissist. However, it is still best to devise your unique compliment. You must be able to let the narcissist say, “Hey, it’s my first time to hear that.”
You can give slight criticisms to a narcissist once in a while to make an impression that you are an honest judge. Be tricky and subtle as you experiment on how to deal with narcissistic people. But never make severe criticisms not even as a joke- narcissists will take it seriously.
HOW DO WE ANSWER A NARCISSIST’S CONFIRMATION QUESTIONS?
Narcissists love to compare themselves with other people. It’s not that they are just conscious but they just love to hear that they are better than the others. Here is one subtle way of answering a narcissist’s comparing question.”It’s not that you are my friend but I think he’s just taller than you and you look way better than him.”
Basically, all you have to do is to concede that almost everything that a narcissist says is correct. Set aside your own ego and care for the narcissist’s ego.
Yes, narcissists are a piece of work. They are annoying so deal with it. Otherwise, just give up. All you need is just patience though. If you feel it’s impossible for you to deal with a narcissist, maybe you are a narcissist yourself.
Some cynics deny that narcissism is a disease. (That’s because they are cynics.)
Narcissism is a personality disorder. A curable disorder.