You do not know what to expect, and you’re worried about how to act like a father. Also, you may feel that there’s really nothing for you to do because the woman is the one who bears the child and gives birth to it, meaning that you really have nothing to do for the first 9 months. But there are so many ways for you to be involved, and there are so many things that you should remember. Although this year may seem stressful and difficult, you should know that if you are able to do a few things you will find that you are more than able to survive this year and it may be the best year of your life also!
First, remember that even in the days before the baby is born, you can make a huge difference in your baby’s life simply by being there. The mother will have a lot of needs, and she is going to probably have a lot of different hormones that are going to make her feel many different things. If you are going to be a good father, it should start right at the beginning, by giving the mother of the child lots of love and support. You can do this simply be being there and helping her with anything that she might need.
When the baby comes, there are plenty of ways to get involved and to survive this crazy time. First, remember that you and the mother should do things equally. If she is breast-feeding, ask her to pump a little milk so that you can feed the baby too. Make sure that you are able to be there when you can change the baby, spend time with the baby, and do all the things a father should do. The best way to survive this time is to throw yourself into it head first and be sure that you will give yourself plenty of chances to be an active father.
Something else that is very important for you to recognize is the question of jealousy and how it can affect you. When the child is born, no matter how much you love your child, and no matter how much you love the baby’s mother, you may find that you are actually jealous of the baby and how much time the child and his mother spend together. Do not be afraid to feel this way because it is a perfectly logical way of thinking and feeling. You can be sure to know that the mother might be having some of the same feelings – except that hers might be deep down jealously of the times that you used to share before the baby came along. This is something that a lot of parents are afraid to admit because they feel like it makes them bad parents. But it’s something everyone feels, and if you admit it, and if you are able to handle it in a good way, you will discover that you are able to get through it. One of the best things you can do is to remember that even if you have a baby, you still have a relationship to nurture with each other. If you can figure out ways to do that, even with the child there, you will be able to have much better feelings.