Everyone’s relationship is slightly different and there are thing you may watch your friends put up with that you would never do. Even when all of your close friends and family really dislike your partner it does t mean you should give up on your relationship with that person, especially if you are actually happy.
The situations when you HAVE to leave someone are different because you have to leave for you not because someone tells you too.
1) No TRUST
Trust and communication are the basics to everyone’s relationships, even friendships but if you cannot trust your partner then you do not have a relationship you have a disaster waiting to happen.
If they are repeatedly cheating on you and you cannot trust them in a situation where they are out by themselves then you must finish the relationship because the other person has no respect for you and is also putting you at risk with STI s.
You may also be continuously paranoid, in which case you need to work on yourself and giving yourself space will help, so take a break anyway.
Give yourself time to heal maybe your partner cheated once and you cannot forgive them but if you can t, stop checking their phone or email behind their back, it’s quite simple you don t trust them. A few weeks break should give you some perspective and you should know if you can continue with the relationship, or arrange counselling when you get back. Either ways if they are cheating or you re paranoid then the chances are you will be arguing all the time and it will be a really unhealthy relationship to be in, especially if there are children involved.
2) No RESPECT
If you have been hit, pushed or attacked by your partner, especially if you have children in the house you MUST leave for your safety. In a situation where a stressed out couple have had a few pushes between them, it is not the same as one person continuously being the aggressor of violent within a household. Someone who is physically violent towards their partner or their children needs to be given space before they do something serious and if you are living in these conditions you must seek help. Telling a family member who will be able to support you while the aggressor can get some anger management counselling is a start. This will do more than heal a relationship as the aggressor may have many deep issue from their past. You must separate for protection initially until the person gets regular help and their therapists agree they should try and have contact. Make it clear to your partner why you are leaving, if you cannot face the conflict then leave while they are out and write a letter confronting their behaviour with the contact details of where to get help.
3) Substance Abuse
This can come under both of the categories above because anyone who loves drugs or alcohol more than you will just continue until they get help, so again, leave them until they have the support in place they need.
It is never easy to make this decision but there are situations when leaving your partner is the right thing to do, because staying with them is saying that you accept this behaviour and if you have any self respect then you cannot live with someone nor have a relationship with someone who would abuse themselves or you.
The other thing to remember is staying in an unhappy or potentially dangerous relationship also blocks the way for any other person you could actually be happy with, which is just stopping you from being happy. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want you?
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