Your husband has lost interest in sex. You feel rejected and so alone. It’s not something that you’ve been able to talk to him about for several reasons. Perhaps you feel scared that he’ll tell you it’s because he’s met someone else or maybe you’re more concerned that he’s fallen out of love with you. Regardless of the reason for your reluctance to bring it up, nothing is improving. You two still haven’t been intimate in some time and you’re beginning to worry that the longer you go without making love, the harder it will be to rekindle that lost passion. You can change the intimate aspect of your relationship and it’s not as challenging as you may think it is.
The first thing you have to do if your husband has lost interest in sex is rule out any medical issues. It’s understandable that you feel hesitant about talking to him about this but it’s important that you encourage him to get a yearly physical examination. Just stress that it’s a crucial part of staying healthy and stay clear of talking about the intimacy issues you two are facing. That way he can go to see the doctor and before long you’ll both learn if there is something physical that is impacting his desire to be intimate with you.
Once that is all taken care of you need to start looking at the emotional reasons for his pulling away from you. One big culprit is stress. If your husband is overloaded with stress in his life, intimacy is going to suffer. He’ll have no desire because he won’t be able to get his mind to that place. You can help by doing whatever you can to alleviate some of the pressures he’s facing. Sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is talk with him and give him an ear to listen and a shoulder to lean on. That can make all the difference in the world in terms of how he feels.
How he feels about himself physically can also impact whether or not he wants to make love. Just as we get focused on those few extra pounds we’ve gained, men do much the same thing. If you hear your husband making comments about how he wishes he was thinner or he stresses that he wants to get in better shape, get on board and help him with that. Work out together and cook healthy meals as a couple. It will help you both get toned and it will also allow you the chance to get reconnected in a very unique way.