Ok, so you messed up with your ex wife but now want to get back with her and build a healthy long lasting marriage. You were probably too young and immature to make the relationship work before. But wait, Is it possible that after so much anger during and after your marriage that you would consider returning to that relationship? You may find yourself asking if it is possible that after such a long and excruciating pain of divorce, you can find happiness and make your ex wife to love you again. Well the answer is a very painful yes.
It is a truly traumatic experience when love dies in a marriage. The question of what went wrong? What could I have done differently? are common questions you will consider at some point in your quiet times. You will be surprised to know that like you many others still love their ex and will like to reconnect with them.
Do not beat yourself up wondering that had you been a better husband, things might have been significantly different. Well here is your chance to make your marriage work and make your ex wife to love you a second time around.
The first step is to reach out to her and apologize for any wrong you have done, tell her you genuinely love her and you are willing to commit to the relationship and make it work this time. If your wife truly loved you but split up because of something you did to hurt her, tendency is that she still loves you and has that soft spot. Do not put any pressure on your wife, give her enough time and wait for her to return to you on her own terms.
Restore the trust and learn to communicate
No relationship gets anywhere without trust. In any relationship or marriage, trust is nearly as important as love. A woman leaves when she has lost all hope and trust. Whatever may have pulled you apart would have broken that trust she once had for you. So you need to restore the trust.
How do you restore a broken trust? It will definitely take time, but you have to do it through re-assuring her through what you say and showing it through your behavior. Be open and honest to her that she can actually see through you, make her aware of any decisions you are making and get her actively involved in everything you are planning to do. This is the true case of action speaks louder than words.
Touch on the past briefly, but Focus on love
Look back at what went wrong together with your ex, identify the root cause and commit to make changes. While it is important to touch on the sensitive topic on why there was a split, make it brief and focus on the new found love you now have for your wife.
Re-ignite the passion in your relationship through intimacy. Intimacy is not just about sex, it is also about connecting emotionally. Have your together time, just the two of you, away from the kids, family and other baggages that sometime comes with marriage. Be affectionate with her, go out on a date, spend a weekend away from home. Remember you want your ex wife to love you again, so do all the initial ground work and with time she will learn to trust and start to love you again.
Pay attention to the things you have in common
Make it a point to talk and listen to what your ex wife has to say each and every day. Spend more time learning those things you share in common and focus on them.Learn how to have more fun together, when you do things together it shows you care enough to be with her.
Treat her with love and respect
Every woman wants to be treated like a princess. Send her flowers for no reason. Call her up and tell her how much you love her and can’t wait to get back to her.
Most importantly take it slow and be determined to make it work. Your Ex wife will love you again when she sees you are making every effort to change. There are many ways to rebuild love and save your marriage if you know how, this mostly revolves around communication.