Focusing on him
Rather you are a woman that is dating, married, or still looking for the special someone in your life. It is important that you remember to keep yourself #1 in your life. As women we often have the need to make other people in our live the center of our lives, the reason we live and breathe. While it is great to be there for your man, we have to keep in mind that we have to meet our own needs first.
This does not mean at all that you neglect or abandon your man or your relationship it however, it means that you do what you need to do to make yourself happy first. We think that we are doing our building such a strong relationship by making the man in our life the center of our life, but this is often done, with us wanting him to do the exact thing for us, and when that doesn’t happy we get resentful and cold towards the man in our life often not even realizing it. With all that going on eventually we end up pushing our men away instead of drawing them closer to us, the way we want to.
Once you realize the value and importance of yourself, you will not only see a change in how you feel about yourself, but the way others feel about you and see you. You start giving yourself some much needed ME time for happiness, peace, alone time, and doing the things that make YOU happy whatever those things may be. You will start to see the changes almost immediately.
We all think a man is attracted to a woman who puts him first and does nothing for herself, however, it’s just the opposite a man is most attracted to a woman who takes care of herself on all levels. You may not realize it but the pressure is on your man, when you don’t do what is necessary to take care of yourself. It makes him feel that he has to do all of this for you, rather you ask him to or not. You are making him the center of your world, looking for him to do the same thing for you. When in fact you should be a significant addition to one another’s world not the reason why you tick. All of this gives off the NEEDY vibe and we all know that nobody wants to spend alot of time with someone who is too needy.
Yes, your man will most likely love the attention you are giving to him, and will soak it all up. However, eventually he will start to withdraw from you if he feels that you are doing it with hopes of getting something in return. When he starts to see more of YOUR life revolving around YOU it brings back to the comfort level and will make him want to get closer to you simply because you are taking care of you.
How Do I Take Care of Myself?
Taking care of yourself in no way means neglecting responsibilities, disregarding your man, children or family, and becoming self centered and cold towards the people in your life. In fact when you start taking care of yourself you will start feeling a sense of serenity, joy and happiness that you have never felt before. You will stop feeling overwhelmed by little things or everything because you have made much needed time for yourself to enjoy life YOUR life.
Taking care of yourself is going to be different for all of us, remembering its all about the things that make you happy. It could simply be, going for a walk, a bike ride, the gym, watching a movie, sitting in a quiet room reading a book, making that doctors appointment when you aren’t feeling well,spending time with your friends and family, taking a bubble bath,or just simply doing nothing. Whatever that thing is that makes you feel special, relaxed and helps to you focus on yourself that is what you are going to do.
Since you have become so used of putting others before yourself it may be useful for you to sit down and make a list of about 5-10 things that you feel will help you take better care of yourself. You don’t have to do them all at once, but start to incorporate them into your life, and watch the positive changes take place.
KEEP IN MIND THAT YOU ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT AS EVERYONE AROUND YOU, RELEASE YOURSELF AND BE FREE TO BE YOU!