Fail to say the reason
“Kevin, today you can’t go out to play,”told Kevin’s mother.
“Why?” asked Kevin.
“Why?, Why?, Why? Don’t you know the reason? Look through the window,” shouted kevin’s mother.
Not only kevin’s mother, most of us are thinking, that children should find the reason on their own or the reason is not important for the children. Some times we are lazy to say the reasons. We speak to the children in ‘ Do what I say manner’.
No, that is wrong. Reasoning is a very good tool to guide our children.
“Kevin, you can’t go out to play because, it is raining outside”.
What is the speciality in this scentence. This scentence contains a reason in it.
There are two benifits in reasoning.
1. Self discipline
2. Prosocial behaviour.
Reasoning and self-discipline
When the children are given a reason for a required behaviour they will be able to control their own behaviour in the future also. When the mother says, “Kevin, you can’t go out to play because, it is raining out side, ” Kevin understands that playing in the rain is not good for him. He will follow this rule for ever.
Reasoning helps the children to develop self- discipline in them.
Reasoning and pro social behavior
Prosocial behavior is friendly reactions between people. This can be working together or helping others. Reasoning develop prosocial behavior in children You can understand this through these examples.
“Sara, help your little brother to do his home work, So he can finish it quickly,” or “Tim give back the doll to Lina. She wants to have that.”
Through these sort of reasoning children can learn to help others and not to disturbe others.