Finding out that someone you loved has cheated on you, can be devastating Is this enough of a reason to end a relationship? In today’s society, love is taken too lightly; the “L” word is thrown around like a frisbee in the park. Too many people do not know what the true meaning of love is, and what it means to be truly loved. Loving someone and being loved in return, goes hand in hand.
When a loved one cheats, you have a very important decision to make. If you can just pack up and walk out of their life, then it really wasn’t true love. In a situation like this, you have to first ask yourself, do I truly love this person? Then ask yourself if you believe this person truly loves you. If the answer is yes to both of these questions, you have your work cut out for you. The end results can be well worth the effort. Remember, if it was easy everyone would do it.
“Once a cheater always a cheater.” I hear this from people all the time, and I don’t believe it for a minute. People make mistakes; we have a lack poor judgment at times. We are all human, and mistakes do happen. If both people truly love each other, the decision has to be made to figure out why cheating happened.
Some times there is not true love in both people’s hearts, so there will have to be a parting of ways. This is difficult to do, but is better done sooner than later.
My wife cheated on me a few years ago. The lies and deceit were almost to overwhelming for me to deal with, but I knew that I loved her with all my heart and that we were meant to be together for the rest of our lives. I knew that she still loved me just as much as ever, but had some issues in self confidence, fear of being alone, and a fear of the unknown. I don’t blame myself for her cheating, but I did realize that there was much more I could have done to release some or all of her fears.
I was not ready to give up on the love I felt for her and the love I knew she felt for me. We talked about everything, and eventually realized there was a lot that we both took for granted. It took us a bunch of time and hard work, but eventually our love over came all of the issues. The hardest part was learning to trust again. I am proud to say that we are both as happy as ever. I know you may find this hard to believe, but this has made our relationship much stronger than it ever was.
Just remember to ask yourself, are you truly in love or just throwing a Frisbee in the park?