There are many people who find themselves involved in an abusive relationship. Many of these people are afraid to leave the abusive relationship behind. There are a number of different factors that contribute to a person’s choice to stay in an abusive relationship. However, the main factor is usually money.
As you may already know, most of the abusive relationships occur in low income families. I am not suggesting that abusive does not happen in rich families. However, it is much more likely to find yourself in an abusive relationship if you are financially unstable.
Poverty takes away a person’s seld esteem and their ability to say no. If an individual is not financially independent, they find themselves relying to their partner for financial support. Sometimes they may be relying on the worng person. It is not uncommon to find that the person you love and trust will begin to treat you poorly once they understand that you cannot leave due to financial problems. Sometimes an abusive partner will take advantage of your poor financial standing and convince you that you deserve to be treated badly.
My advice is to get away from an abusive partner as soon as possible. Stop confiding in this person and recognize that you are a victim. Seek help from a variety of sources. Abuse may come in verbal or physical form. Do not allow anyone to treat you badly. You can do better. Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect. You deserve that as well.
Sometimes a person who is emotionally unstable may find themselves in an abusive relationship also. If you think that you cannot live without a relationship or that you are only a worth while person if you have a partner, you may be setting yourself up to be in an abusive relationship. Try to be happy with who you are. Find things in your life that make you happy. You do not need to gain approval from anyone. Just be yourself and love yourself just the way you are. Stop trying to accomodate other people and look for people who are going to fit in with your already happy life.