WORKING YOUR WAY THROUGH GRIEF
If you have recently lost a loved one: parent, sibling, child, even a beloved pet, you are no doubt struggling with grief. Initially, you may be in shock, or you may just feel numb. You may be familiar with Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s “Cycle of Grief,” which includes these five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. You may go through all these, or only some of them.
Here are some things you can do to help the process along:
Support. Talk about your grief. Seek emotional support from family and friends – when they experience grief (as we all must), they will doubtless come to you. The pastor of your church can help. Find out what your community has to offer. Work hard at this, as without support, you may be at risk for more visits to the doctor, or perhaps hospitalization for serious or non-serious diseases like colitis; lack of sleep, neglect of self – even breathing difficulties, among other unhappy events. Mortality rates are more common among the recently bereaved, as is suicide. If you have lost a beloved pet, you can take a course in grief healing at http://www.griefhealing.com/healingcourses.htm.
Honor your loved one in some meaningful way. If you have lost a beloved pet, you can go to www.griefhealing.com and take a course in dealing with your grief. If you are Jewish, go to http://www.jewishpath.org/gefm/ganeden.html and post a memorial.
If you are really thinking about suicide, please call your local crisis line immediately!