It’s very important to all of us to be recognized as a person. But in today’s busy, hurry up, not enough time in the day world we live in we seldom slow down enough to give even our closest friends the time of day let alone the recognition they deserve.
Here are some tips on how to make your friends or the people you come in contact with everyday feel like they are important, even when you don’t think you have the time.
A Real Name. When you’re talking to someone, either in a conversation or just in passing, call them by their real name. When we communicate with other people we all get caught up in saying things like; “hi there” or “good morning” or “morning” or maybe just “hello”. From this point forward, make it a point to say it like this instead: “hi there Joe” or “good morning Joe” or “morning Joe” or “hello Joe”.
When you speak to people and refer to them by their real name, it makes a difference and will make them feel good as well. It shows that you care enough to take that extra step and confirms their importance as a person. It’s a courtesy thing, a respect thing, it validates them.
A Simple Smile. Smile, even when you don’t feel like it. When you greet someone with a smile it has a tendency to make them smile back. Well, at least most of the time. It’s a fact of life that some people never smile. It seems they think that if they smile their face might crack or something. But when you pass on a smile, even to a complete stranger, it has the psychological effect of making everything better, it’s contagious and might even make someone, if only for a split second, forget about all their troubles.
A Special Day. Make someone special today. As you go through your day at work or where ever you may be, make someone feel special. If it’s at work, pick one person to be especially nice to. Go out of your way to make that person feel good. Compliment them on what they are wearing or maybe what a great job they did. When you are out eating make your waiter or waitress feel good even if they are the worst waiter/waitress you’ve ever had.
Be more understanding and forgiving. Be more receptive to the feelings and emotions of others around you. Try to take the focus off yourself for a minute and be more aware of the feelings of others.
When you practice these kinds of behaviors you will find that almost without fail, your view towards others as well as their view towards you, change in very dramatic and positive way. Not only will it effect their attitude, it will make you feel happier too.
I believe that for the most part we were all born with a good and decent nature. It’s only later in life as we get older and get caught up in all the hoopla of trying to succeed and keep up with everyone around us that we forget about the thing that truly makes the world go round, and that is, Love!