Every one at sometime has a friend or two who is going through a rough time in their life and needs added support; maybe a divorce, family illness or financial difficulty. But trying to figure out ways to let your friend know that you are their when they need you and being supportive with out crossing the line and smothering them can be difficult. What do you do to help? Here is a list of suggestion from big to small to let your friend know that you are there are for her.
Good friend tip #1. Call to say hello. It is amazing how therapeutic a conversation can be; sometimes all it takes is a friendly hello to help a person feel better. Even if you only leave a message, it’s enough to let the person know that you are thinking about them.
Good friend tip #2. Have a meal. No matter how big or small breaking bread with someone can brighten their day. Just meeting up for a quick cup of coffee and pastry can be a great stress reliever.
Good friend tip #3. Send mail. Receiving a letter or card from a friend always makes one feel better. It does not need to be a 10 page letter, a thinking of you card is enough to let your friend know that she is on your mind and in your heart.
Good friend tip #4. Send email. Email may not be as personnel as a letter or card but it is a way to get a message to someone quickly. Many times I like to send an email and follow it with a card.
Good friend tip #5. Send a text message. Yes I know text messaging can be cold and impersonal but it can also be a heart felt and warming gesture. A text message isn’t the place for an in-depth or long message but it is great for sending a spontaneous funny picture, joke or just a simple hi.
Good friend tip #6. Free babysitting. If your friend is a parent then volunteer to take the kids for the day. Sometimes a few hours of quite is all a parent needs to mentally center themselves.
Good friend tip #7. Give a book or magazine subscription. Studies show that reading for 15 minutes before going to bed helps the body unwind and relives stress.
Good friend tip #8. Plan a movie night. This does not necessarily mean you have to go out to the movies sometimes it is best to watch a movie at home where tears or spontaneous conversation are not a bad thing.
Good friend tip #9. Send a “thinking of you gift”. Receiving flowers or a gift basket can always make a person’s day brighter. Nothing fancy is needed, a small bouquet of sunflowers a gift basket of cookies is that is needed to let your friend know that you are thinking about them.
Good friend tip #10. Give the gift of music. Burn a CD of your friends’ favorite songs or singers. Music has a great healing power and knowing that it is coming from someone who loves you makes it all the more powerful.