I suppose a lot of couples ask this question at one point in their relationship. Even if the marriage is sailing along there is always going to be times when something just does not feel right. This can inevitably lead to arguments and frustration. Things may be said in the heat of the moment that you may regret later on. You must try to make the relationship work by trying to work for each other. Here are a few things to consider when you start to experience relationship problems:
Try to recognize the trouble:
Try to talk to each other to find out honestly what the problem is. This may seem hard but it is important to get to the root of the problem. We may not like the answers we get back but if we do not find out the problem then how can we resolve it?
The only way to make the relationship last is if you talk to each other in a meaningful way. It may be that you have lots to do with holding down jobs or looking after the family but you still need to communicate with each other regularly. Make it customary to spend some quality time with your spouse. Communicating is so important in a relationship. Make sure that you are a good listener if your other half has got any problems. Do not just let them struggle through on their own, try to take some of the responsibility and lighten the burden.
Your opinion of one another is also vitally important. It is no good blaming each other for any problems, after all a problem shared is a problem halved as they say! Respect your partner and their decisions and try to talk it over calmly if you have any disagreements with them. Show them the respect that they deserve and let them know how you really feel about them.
Sometimes all it needs is to put the sparkle back into the marriage. Try to remain intimate with your partner and do not distance yourself from them. By keeping close and intimate in times of trouble your problems will just seem to drift away. Do not go off in a mood and refuse to talk to your partner if things are not quite going your way. It is always better to confront the issue head on and resolve it then you can get things back to the way they were. It may be difficult to keep your marriage fresh and exciting but it is not impossible if you just try hard.