Treat others the way you want to be treated, that’s the hackneyed phrase that has be etched into our mind sense were old enough to speak. It,s amazing that so many adults still can’t grasp such a simple concept. Many times we get ourselves in situations that are life threatening simply because we don’t follow this one simple rule. Most of us think we follow this simple concept, in actuality you may in fact follow this rule with your friends, colleagues and associates but what about people in restaurants that you get frustrated with and insult because they accidentally put onions on your hamburger. Or when you call in to your cell phone provider and jump down the innocent customer service representatives’ throat because you were irresponsible and went over your minutes and you’re mad because your bill is high. Yes that counts because you have no right to be rude and yell at people who are not personally responsible for the predicament that you’re in. Even if the person feeling your wrath is to be held personally responsible, What good does it do you to be rude to them? What are you accomplishing? The only thing your doing is making an enemy, possibly an enemy that you could have made a friend, if only you had adjusted your attitude. Take a minute an tell me how it makes you feel when your angry and take out your frustrations—-
On someone that is completely undeserving of feeling your wrath. It feels good to let out that frustration. How do you think it makes the other person feel? There are most definitely more constructive ways to relieve that frustration and in this article I will review some positive and beneficial ways to relieve stress
But First I would like to discuss the ways that anger can kill you.
According to several studies at Harvard Medical School, A study of 1,305 men with an average age of 62 revealed that the angriest men were three times more likely to suffer heart attack. That means Be happy or die!
Your Behavior can provoke another person to harm you and potentially put yourself in a life threatening situation. For example; Algerian soccer star striker Rafik Saifi approached a female journalist named Asma Halimi and allegedly slapped her across the face. Apparently did this because of a article she had previously wrote about his engagement to a French woman. Regardless of what this woman may or may not have done. By taking the initiative and striking this woman. This woman could have easily had a weapon and killed him, All because he couldn’t control his temper.
It is speculated that Tiger Woods wife had confronted him about reports that he was seeing another woman. The argument got heated and, according to TMZ, she scratched his face up. It is said that it was then Woods beat a hasty retreat for his SUV — but according to 1 source, Woods says his wife followed behind with a golf club. As Tiger drove away, she struck the vehicle several times with the club.” Now what if Tiger had run into an innocent pedestrian and killed that person, moreover what if Tiger would have accidentally hit his wife with the SUV and accidentally killed her. She jeopardized her life and the lives of others simply because she couldn’t control her anger. Just because someone makes you mad that does not give you a right to hurt them.
Next I will discuss some ways you can productively channel your anger.
Firstly, Practice relaxation techniques. Anger can be a stressful emotion because it is so physical, your heart and mind race, your muscles can tense and you may feel sick. Focus on relaxing your body and mind to help look at the situation more objectively.
Clearly discuss with the person with whom you are angry, why you are angry with them. If she/he tries to argue, do not engage in the argument. Just come back to the bottom line. Which is the reason your upset and the ways you can solve this altercation.
Use anger to fuel constructive or creative activity. If your still angry, look for a physical activity to direct it towards. Dance, exercise and drumming are three ways you can work off the extra energy.
In closing, Is someone cutting you off in traffic or messing up your food order really worth your life? Relax and enjoy your life. If not your hot temper might just be the death of you!