This is the second part of my stress management strategy. I suggest if you didn’t did so that you read part one before continuing on part you. If you don’t you won’t get everything.
Above your list of category 3, write “I (your name), admit to have no power to change the items listed below. I understand that I must learn to accept it as part of my life although I have no power over them. I refuse them to have any power over me or to allow them managing my stress level. ” You’ll need to regularly review the sentence and your entire list of items in category 3, until your stress level about these will not be returned to a level you deem acceptable.
Thereafter, take category no 2, the items that you have a relative power of change. For each item, indicate what power you think you have and what you would do to change the situation. Your proposal for change must be realistic and achievable. It means that you can and will try to apply your idea. It’s up to you to set a timetable for this purpose.
Finally, repeat the exercise with the category 1, the items that you think you have a great ability to change. For each, offer one or two avenues of solutions that you want to put forward. Put there enough detail to create a clear image in your head of what you want to do. For each item in this list, set yourself a realistic timetable for implementation.
Above lists of categories 1 and 2, write “I, (your name), recognize to have power over the items listed below. I have developed some possible solutions and I promise to be brave: I will take action and try to implement my solutions. ”
It is possible that your solutions do not work all, or that you can not perform everything according to your schedule. You will then analyze and write why things have not turned as you wanted them to be.
This process should allow you to see your sources of stress in another way, and also to remove at least a little of the emotional part. When something stresses or makes us anxious, it is usually proportional to the emotional burden that this has for us.
Finally, if this technique does not work, do not lose hope. There are other ways to help you cope with your anxiety, and this one wasn’t the right one for you. And if it was a test among so many others on your list, it might be time to consult a mental health professional. Internet is very good. But the contact with humans, the direct relationship is even better.