I believe that each of us should have at least one person that we could be friends with. What I mean by friends is, someone that will be there for us through thick and thin, someone that would tell us when we’re wrong, and someone that we can share our success with. This kind of person is very different from someone that you are acquainted with. For an acquaintance is there for you when things may be great but not necessarily when times are tough.
It’s funny that when we were kids, one day we would be friends with someone and then in a blink of an eye we would say “You’re not my friend anymore.” At least this is a common saying that even I’ve heard my children express. I’m so glad that as we grow, we don’t look at those close to us as easily replaceable. However having a friendship also means investing into the relationship. You can’t expect to have someone be your friend if you aren’t willing to be a friend.
Because our lives are hectic it’s sometimes hard to talk to each other for the length of time that we would like to and having a “girl’s night” out can be difficult if you’re a mom. But there are some things that we can do to keep a friendship from failing.
- Communication-Talking on the phone is usually a thing of the past when you become a wife and a mother. Time just doesn’t allow for it when you’re busy with soccer practice, flute lessons, and football games. Homework, housework, and a nice dinner with your husband take precedence, or at least that should be the case. But you can still communicate. Because the internet is so readily available send a simple email, even if it’s a two line sentence telling the recipient hello and asking them how they’re doing.
- Calendars-Keeping a calendar is so important, especially if you’re a mom. It’s hard to keep track of all the items on your “to do” list so having a date book is really beneficial. Making annotations of your friend’s birthday’s, wedding anniversaries, or any other important event will keep you “in the know” and it will make your friend feel special to know that you remember.
- Family Outings-Because our schedules are hectic it’s a great idea to set aside some time to have family outings. My family did this and it was really fun and it didn’t cost us very much. We planned a camping trip with another family and pitched in on all the supplies. We spent a weekend roughing it and not only did our kids have a great time we were able to enjoy the company of dear friends.
- Commitment-Life throws us some curve balls and can be very overwhelming. It’s great to have your friends around when things are happy and running smoothly but it’s imperative to have them there for you when you are struggling through life. Being available to one another during the tough times not only helps one another it shows how much their cared about when their in need.
I only have a few people in my life that I consider to be friends. They have been there for me in the good times and bad. They’ve been there to laugh and cry with me, to celebrate and mourn, and to share in life’s victories. If you have people like that it makes life even more wonderful than going it at it alone.