Domestic violence is a major problem in the United States. Studies show that 25% of women and 8% of men have suffered at the hands of their loved ones. The abuser uses fear and intimidation to gain power and control over the other person. Whether it is physical, verbal or sexual abuse it is all destructive and can be life threatening. In homicides where the killer is identified 33% of female murder victims and 4% of male murder victims were killed by their intimate partner. These numbers continue to grow and shatter the lives of those involved.
Domestic violence is devastating to a family. Not only does the victim suffer but so do the children. They grow up in a home seeing their parents engaging in behaviors that are violent, fearful, and helpless. The children usually go in one of two ways as they grow up. For example, one child may see his father abusing his mother so when he grows up he feels as if this is the way to handle problems in his own marriage. On the other hand a daughter may see her mother being abused and then enter into relationships that imitate the one that she grew up with. It’s a vicious cycle that trickles down from generation to generation, but it can be stopped.